[embedded content] As a smart, strong, successful woman, you have a full single life, filled with work, friends, family, and hobbies. Yet this isn’t your primary strength when it comes to dating. If you don’t let men it’s hard for them to make an emotional connection. Listen to this deep Love U Podcast to learn how to stop your insecurities from running the show and how it takes a lot of confidence to be vulnerable. Podcast: Play in new window | Download Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Email | Stitcher | Spotify | Blubrry | Do you often talk about what an amazing life you have? Do you make it clear that you don’t need a man to be happy? Are you wary of letting down your guard because you’re afraid of getting hurt? If so, this podcast is for you. Stick around. I’m Evan Marc Katz, Dating Coach for Smart, Strong, Successful Women, and your personal trainer for love. Welcome to the Love U podcast. Stay to the end of this video to learn why it takes confidence to be vulnerable and how the only way to get the love you want is to be vulnerable. When we’re done, I’ll let you know how you could apply to Love U to create a passionate relationship that makes you feel safe, heard, and understood. So, it’s gonna be a long one. Strap yourself in. I’m kind of excited about it. I’m a Dating Coach for smart, strong, successful women and I have been for 17 years. I don’t like to lump everybody together, but there’s definitely a certain type of woman who comes to me. You’ll see it when I launch my new website. It’s the woman who has everything but the guy. And if you’re the woman who has everything but, the guy that phrase may mean something to you. You are bright. You’re accomplished. You look at your life with pride and joy, at the things that you’ve created, the career that you have. Your friends, your family, your possessions, your hobbies, your travel. You filled up your life because you’re single and you’re independent. And you have the means and you’re driven. And that’s something to be applauded. No one’s suggesting you should sit around waiting for a man. The problem is that when that becomes your whole source of identity, one can become defensive about not having it all. You spend so much time pursuing your work because it’s more remunerating that you don’t end up getting love. And then the story becomes, I’m happy. I don’t need a man to be fulfilled. And that’s the face that you put on to the world. And it’s a brave face that you put onto the world because you’re preparing for the possibility that you might never get a guy. So you better be OK with being alone and it becomes a bit of a stance. The problem is when that stance shows up in real life and men don’t necessarily respond to the woman who doesn’t need a man and thinks her life is perfect without one. There’s an inherent contradiction in that that’s worth exploring. So, I’m going to explore it the best way I know how, which is to tell you personal stories. And I’ll tell you stories about clients, too. But I really want to get into the personal aspect of it, because I understand this vulnerability confidence piece really, really well. And so, I want to bring you back to 15 years ago before I met my wife. I took a class called the Landmark Forum through Landmark Education. I don’t want to send you down that rabbit hole. But basically, it’s a large-scale group therapy, really intense. Three days right from 8:00 in the morning to midnight in a room with a bunch of really smart people in the front of the room. Who are kind of walking you through a group therapy process, getting you to look at yourself. Take responsibility for your failures, etc. And a lot of it’s really challenging. And I remember being in this course and not being that receptive. I felt like a lot of it didn’t apply to me. I felt like I was different than some of the other people there who had bigger problems. My big problem was that I felt lonely and disconnected from my friends and family in my early thirties. The reason you’re here is because you don’t have it all together. So, I’m in this class and the professor, a teacher, tells me to stand up, chooses me. And again, there’s one hundred fifty people sitting down. Calls on me. And he said, what’s your deal? You look like you’re above it all is what he says to me. You look like you’re above it all. And I said, I don’t mean to sound in a way that I don’t want to sound, but a lot of this stuff, people who have really broken relationships with their family where they don’t know or they were sexually abused or kicked out of the house through serious drug problems or, you know, really disastrous relationships with the most important people in their life, I feel like most of that doesn’t apply to me. And again, I’ll never forget it, he said. And he goes, that’s your problem. And I’m kind of like cocking my head. And he goes, you carry yourself like a guy who’s too good for everything. You carry yourself as I’m smarter than you, my ideas are better than yours, and I don’t need this. You act like the guy who has it all together. Now, the reason you’re here is because you don’t have it all together. You might not have the same problems as everybody here, but there’s something that’s lacking in your life. That’s what caused you to reach out. So how can anybody contribute to your life if you are perfect, where you put on the illusion that you’re perfect to the world? That’s what you want everybody to see. I have it all together. What does anybody now have to contribute to you? I’m pretty sure I started bawling. Right, because it was so spot on. So close to home. Right. I felt disconnected from my friends and family because I was putting on some confident facade. Even though I am confident in many ways. I was putting on a facade without any vulnerability. Without any humanity and I was wondering why people weren’t responding to me. That was really painful to feel shut out because I was having trouble making emotional connections with people. And I’m an emotional, self-aware guy. So, they hit on something that I’ve never forgotten. That’s why I’m sharing it with you today. And so that was an interesting evolution because I’ve always been the sensitive guy. My mom was always telling me back when I was a writer, you should be a writer. You should be a psychologist. You should be a shrink. You should talk to people. That’s your gift. I remember a story and I’ve alluded to it in previous podcasts, but maybe 20 years ago I had a girlfriend. And on the first date, I remember crying to her. This is how vulnerable I was. I remember telling the story about how my father died. It was like, you know, less than a year later. And I remember telling the story about how my father died. I was 26 or 27 years old. And the story bringing me to tears. And instead of sending her running in the opposite direction, she thought it was beautiful that I could talk about my father in such a loving way and that so many guys don’t. All right. I didn’t turn on the waterworks to impress her, but I also didn’t care that the waterworks were gonna scare her away. I was just being myself. And who I was, was a guy who was reeling from his father’s death. That did not stop me from hooking up later that night or making this woman my girlfriend. That’s what I’m talking about is the confidence to be vulnerable. I’m not recommending crying on dates. We need to understand that confidence and vulnerability are not mutually exclusive. And a lot of times we make it seem like it is. If I let down my guard, if I show someone my humanity, if I show any perception of weakness, then I’m feeling I’m going to be desperate. I’m being taped. I’m going to be taken advantage of. He’s gonna run fleeing from my emotions. And these are things that women believe and it’s the overcorrection. Are there guys who flee from women’s emotions? Sure. Are those the guys that you want? No. Period. Exclamation point. Think of the best conversations. Think of a conversation I’m having with you right now. You on the Internet. You on the podcast. I am being, these are buzzwords so they almost lack meaning, authentic, vulnerable, and it takes confidence to put oneself out there and do this. Insecurity is what drives people to be invulnerable. If you’re insecure, you’re afraid of letting down your guard. If you’re insecure, you’re afraid of speaking your truth. If you’re insecure, you’re afraid that everybody’s going to judge you or everybody’s going to leave you. If you’re confident, you put it out there and you know that people really respond to confidence, authenticity, vulnerability. I’ve got a client. I remember the story this year back. She was 60 and she was telling me her story and she was telling me about a source of her dating anxiety is telling someone on a first date that she had a child out of wedlock 40 years ago. She had an accident when she was 20. Kept the child. Forty years later. Her son is 40 years old. He’s a man and she is still carrying this like it’s a badge of shame, like some 60-year-old guy is going to care about something she did 40 years ago and judge her for it. That’s fascinating to me that people carry that shame and have trouble reconciling that years and years later. I have my own, you know, embarrassing stories. I try to tell them publicly as a service to you. My most prominent problem is that I’ve got a history of anxiety. Not so much depression, but definitely anxiety. It came on in my late 20s. I was dropped out of college and then, it surfaced again while I was a screenwriter and had trouble getting it together in my twenties until I kind of figured out my career. And once I had some stability, I landed. But I was really anxious that I didn’t know what I was going to do for a living and how I was going to make money and how I was going to live up to my potential. And so, there was a big source of anxiety for a portion of my life that was debilitating. You know, shrinks, antidepressants, that kind of stuff. Contrary to what, you know, what some people might do in that situation, I never really hid from that. I didn’t put it in my dating profile. I didn’t tell people on the phone, hey, I just dialed down my Zoloft prescription to a half a milligram. Everything was great. It wasn’t bad. But when you’re having a conversation with someone that has any depth or meaning in who’s going there, I don’t see any point in hiding from your stuff. All right. We have to walk it back later. I did a Love U coaching call this week. I love these calls. We really, really go deep. We spend two hours on the phone every week and sometimes these themes emerge. These unintentional themes. And I had like four or five women as some version of the same question. When a guy says why are you still single, what do you say? When a guy is asking you about sex, how do you react? when a guy asks the almost predictable questions about your ex? You know what happened in your relationship or how did you join Match.com? And my clients get this sort of deer in the headlights moment. I don’t know how to answer that. There’s absolutely no way to answer that. And it’s the truth. People love the truth. Someone said if my wife said to me when we’re dating, Hey Evan, you’re a 34-year-old dating and relationship coach, you’ve never had a relationship for more than eight months. How do you explain that? I don’t like that question. It’s a little bit too directed on the spot, but it’s a very reasonable point of curiosity. I better have a good answer to that. That’s not driven by insecurity or vulnerability. So, the best way to answer that is to speak your truth. Well, honestly, I was not in any position to get married in my 20s. I didn’t have a career to speak of. I was a struggling screenwriter doing odd jobs. I was depressed and anxious. It was a really rough decade. And since I dropped out of film school and wrote a couple of books and started to do this, dating coaching thing. Things have been really good. And since then, I’ve had much better relationships and getting a lot closer to what I’m looking for. And I’ve always wanted to fall in love and get married and start a family and feel like I’ve never been in a better place than I am right now. You see that? That’s it, that’s the answer. I didn’t lie. I didn’t have the bullshit like that was the answer. It told the truth. I took ownership. I didn’t go down some deep spiral of shame talking about all the mistakes I made in my 20s when life and love and with my father dying and my terrible screenwriting career and emotionally abusive relationships where I got my ass kicked. I didn’t have to do all that. So, again, I want to bring this back to the original subject. It takes confidence to be vulnerable. It takes confidence to speak your truth and know that your truth is going to be warmly accepted because of your relationship to the story. You can tell it at a remove. You can tell it at a distance without it turning in or blowing up or being held against you in some way. So, I really want you to try this idea on for size. The idea that your insecurity around being single, around wanting a man, being scared, being hurt, being vulnerable, having made mistakes could actually be a strength. Men would love to hear the truth. They would love to hear you take ownership. Yeah, I spent most of my 30s working hard and didn’t spend too much time thinking about love. I probably walled myself off from it because I got hurt in my last relationship. And then I looked up and realized I wanted this whole thing. I wanted to find a relationship. And now I’m ready. So much better than I don’t know, I just haven’t met the right guy. Which is kind of a non-answer. So, think at this moment about yourself, how you project to others the masks you wear, the stories you tell to yourself. I’m fine. I don’t need a man. The stories that you tell to your friends and men that you meet, the facade that you put up, and ask yourself, how can a man contribute to you? How can he feel connected to you? What is the universal humanity that you show on your dates? If you’re so busy telling everybody how perfect life is, how perfect you are, how busy and happy you are, how you barely have room to do anything else. How you’ve never made any mistakes, how you never had any regrets, what can someone grasp on to as humans? So, the answer to this question is what makes you you and what makes a man fall in love with you is not your impressive job or your education or your cool hobbies. It’s your hopes and your dreams and your desires. And, yes, even your failures. I’m Evan Marc Katz. Thank you for tuning into the Love U podcast. For more episodes like this on YouTube, click on the subscribe button, ring the bell, and choose all to ensure you get notified whenever new content comes out. And if you’re listening to the audio podcast, please scroll down below to leave an honest review on Apple. More reviews equal more awareness of The Love U Podcast and more love in the world. And if you’re interested in joining Love U, you click on the link below to apply. Thanks so much. Talk to you soon. Download my free special report, The 8 Massive Mistakes You’re Making in Relationships Get the man of your dreams fast by applying to enroll in Love U.

You’ve probably been taught that hypermasculinity is what it takes to win over a woman. Men pursue while women leisurely sit back and recline as men do all the courting. Generally speaking, this is how it goes. Sure times have changed as women are now more equal both socially and economically than ever, but when’s the last time a woman sauntered over to you at a bar and bought you a drink? Men have pursued women for centuries and will continue to do so. A man’s label as the initiator is too snug a fit to shake loose anytime soon. Yet pursuing and being forward don’t have to go hand in hand. You can pursue and not be forward at the same time. In this article, we’ll find that perfect balance. To rewire your romantic tactics we’ll go back to the basics starting with how you mine dates. Dating with Intention: How Forward Should You Be with Women? How to Go On More Dates What’s the context in which you normally flirt in? If you flirt at work, at the gym, or at your friend’s 3-year-old’s birthday party, you’re flirting in a delicate space. The aforementioned places aren’t prime flirting venues because they’re all designed for other purposes.  At work you, well, work. At the gym you pump iron  – not chat with sweaty strangers. However, there are spaces in which flirty free for alls are welcome -dating apps are one of these spaces. It’s on -my favorite- apps like Hinge, Bumble, Facebook Dating, Tinder, and OkCupid that unabashed flirting is welcomed. If you’re weirded out about the idea of online dating, you’re in the minority.  In 2017, 40% of new relationships started with an online dating interaction.  Americans’ attitudes towards online dating have changed quite a bit since Tinder was labeled as a hookup app back in 2013. It’s time to embrace dating apps. Don’t know how to get started? No worries, I’ve got you covered. Consulting with a buddy for some profile advice is one thing, but turning to a professional wingwoman is another. In my Signature Program I’ll teach you what’s needed to create a compelling online dating profile that is certain to receive likes, but more importantly, I’ll teach you how to use a TDL. Racking up matches is nice, but if you never meet up with these women, what’s the point? Dating apps should be used as introductory apps. You don’t date the woman within the app, rather you determine whether or not she’s worthy of a first date. The goal of any dating app is to transition the dynamic from one online to one IRL. To do this you’ll have to ask her out with a time, date, location, otherwise known as a TDL. Ya see, most women are asked to go on amorphous dates in the undefined future. “Hey wanna go out sometime” is a common refrain heard from dudes women never actually go out with. To ensure a yes or no response you have to frame your request using a TDL. An example looks like, “Hey Steph, care to get nostalgic with me this Thursday at 7pm at The Fillmore to watch Panic at the Disco?” Asking her out in such a way requires a yes or no response. It shows her you’re serious about dating her and have put thought into your date idea. Use it each and every time you ask a woman out. How to Not Get Friendzoned Ahh yes, the dreaded friendzone. Rightly so, if you’re worried about being too forward you’re also worried about being friendzoned. Playing it too cool may lead her to think you’re not into her and thus relegate you to the friendzone. Romantic interests turn into friends because of their lack of romantic gestures. As it stands you’re worried about being too forward. You may fear that in order to tone it down you’ll have to act in a completely platonic way towards your lady. This isn’t the case. A healthy balance between the two involves artfully signaling your interest. This means respectfully yet frequent touching during dates, eliciting emotional reactions, and opening up to each other. When it comes to accelerating attraction one of the best ways to do this is through physical touch. Early on in the relationship (1st, 2nd, and 3rd dates) it’s important to use touch to build a connection.  One move that always works involves offering her your hands. While you two are talking, present your hands to her after a joke or during an emotional moment. If she reaches out to grab your hands, this is a signal of her interest. This type of contact is low-risk yet powerful.  From here, work your way towards riskier and more revealing touching. Start with her hands and shoulders before touching her lower back and leg. You don’t just have to use your hands to touch her. Playful pokes or bumps are great ways to increase attraction. How to Avoid Having Dates Stall/Fizzle Out So you’re crushing it online, have lined-up dates left and right but just can’t seem to score a third or even second date. What gives? Here are some guidelines to keep in mind for the initial dating period. First dates should last no longer than an hour and no more than $10 should be spent. Short dates mean you can date many women without spending too much time or money getting to know them. You don’t need more than an hour to determine whether you like a woman or not. If you didn’t like her, well you only wasted an hour of your time. If you did, then the feeling was mutual and you two are left counting the minutes until you hangout again, thus building tension. Second dates should be active and free. Active dates are dope. No one likes a cliche coffee date. Instead set out on an adventure together. Go hiking, for a run, a bike ride, yoga in the park, or even a walk around a new part of town. It’s much easier to keep the conversation going and initiate touch when you two are being stimulated by the activity enough to always have fresh material to discuss. On these first two dates it’s important to touch her frequently and respectfully. Pay close attention to how she reacts to touch. If you feel like you’re being too forward, sit back for a while until she signals her interest with a touch of her own. How to Get Over Feeling Uncomfortable With Being Forward  Your nerves are getting the best of you because of your framing. This isn’t a win or lose situation. You may be thinking that if you don’t “fill in the blank” this is a failure. Stop that. Think of this as an opportunity to explore the depth of another human being. This is an emotional exploration in which you’re trying to spelunk through the deepest depths of another insanely nuanced individual.  This isn’t sexual, it’s emotional. It’s about getting to know her, that’s it. Your sexual expectations are making you act either too aggressive or too aloof. Be interested in who she is and everything else will fall into place. As your exploration continues you’ll likely find that there’s a bond between the two of you. Touching and becoming sexual will fall into place once this connection is formed. Are You Unsure of How to Escalate? Escalation is difficult when you two meet in an active cafe for the first time. Whispers turn to shouting just to get a word across and touching is out of the question being that she’s so far away from you. To make escalation easier choose a date spot that is conducive to touching. If you’re not forward enough with your touch, consider how you can create dates that incorporate touch naturally.  For example: rather than a tea date where you have to force physical touch, try planning dates where touch is baked into the activity. Consider things like salsa dancing, jiu jitsu or capoeira classes, etc. That way you don’t have to worry about how you’re going to touch her on the date. Now you can be present and enjoy the physical interaction. Remember that even the most innocuous touches are good touches. High fives, playful butt bumps, and tapping her far shoulder so she looks away from you are all low-risk ways to touch. Should she enjoy your touch you’ll know about it. How to Tell When a Woman Wants You to Escalate Stop reading the menu and start reading her body language. Has she created a barrier between the two of you or is she more than comfortable permitting you into her personal space? Are her arms crossed or is she leaning forward eating up every word you say? When you offer her your hands does she touch them? Smiles, giggles, sustained eye contact, and of course having her initiate physical contact are all telltale signs that she’s into you. Most importantly how does she react when you touch her? Date Sequencing It’s important that you sequence your date properly to escalate sexual tension. A first date should be low-key and less than an hour. Second dates are where you want to be physically active. No dinner dates please! Whatever you do avoid boring, inactive second dates. You need to get her blood and adrenaline pumping on a second date in order to escalate sexual tension. If you want to kiss her on this date, do it. Just don’t ask if you can. Instead of asking, if you’re feeling awkward, tell her “I want to kiss you right now” and then watch her reaction. If she smiles, leans in, plays with her hair, or giggles, that’s a go – make your move! Third dates are for dinner and sexy time. Invite her back to your place after dinner. Sit next to her on the couch and don’t be afraid to pull her in for a passionate kiss.  Escalate physical touch by moving into petting and eventually sex, unless she says “no.” If she does say “no,” then it’s time to have a conversation about why so you know where you stand! Are You Ready to Get Frisky? If so go forth and apply the provided advice. If you feel like you need a bit more insider knowledge, consult with me 1-on-1 via a Zoom conversation.  It’s here that I’ll impart what women want and how they want it. As both a woman and a dating coach I understand what the women you’re pursuing are thinking while dating you.  Together we’ll teach you how to become a dating maven, how to date compatible women, and find a woman that is worthy of your awesomeness.

If you are looking for the best places to meet girls in Lubumbashi with a dating guide then this is the right post for you. There is a lot to discuss when it comes to where you can pick up single women and enjoy a great date night together. Table of Contents Hooking up in the nightlife will be our starting point before transitioning to where you can meet single Lubumbashi girls during the day and how to use online dating sites to your advantage. Date night ideas and some other interesting things to do throughout the day will also be mentioned towards the end. Many of you may also be interested in our post on dating Kinshasa women. Nightclubs & Pick Up Bars This is our list of the best singles bars and nightclubs to pick up Lubumbashi girls: [embedded content] There really isn’t one main area for singles nightlife though in the city center near the big protestant university is a pretty centrally located spot. We would suggest you try to stay near there if you are a tourist hoping to hook up with Lubumbashi girls on your trip. We are posting a map of pick up bars and date spots in a bit, Ramone is a popular night spot here and it is in a good area to make your home base. Getting laid will be a lot easier if you are in the right part of town. It should also briefly be mentioned that you can expect there to be some freelance prostitutes at Lubumbashi bars and clubs. That is something we always point out when discussing cities in Africa and in most developing countries around the globe. Meet Lubumbashi Girls During The Day Day game is going to be pretty tough because there really aren’t a lot of malls and the streets are going to be pretty rough. By rough we mean dirty, overcrowded, chaotic, and tough places to meet single Lubumbashi women. You could hang out at the popular markets, or try to pick up girls at Complexe La Plage or the Alilac Center. Chat With Girls Online We aren’t ashamed to say that we think the dating scene has gotten a lot harder on single men ever since all this new tech came into play. People are so anti-social right now and that isn’t a good thing for anyone that wants to find someone new to date or hook up with in the near future. Hot girls have always been hard to get with, but now you almost never even see them. When they go party at nightclubs they are probably in VIP or with a big group of their girlfriends that want nothing more than to cockblock you. Even though we are all feeling this we can’t just give up now can we? At least it has become pretty quick and easy to meet girls near you online on dating sites whenever you want. The best dating site to meet single girls in Lubumbashi online is Afro Introductions, and it is the best wingman a guy could ask for these days. Why put on your nicest clothes to wait in long lines to get into a club when the hottest girls are going to be in VIP and basically off limits? Instead just scroll through huge lists of dating site profiles and send messages to all the attractive women you see that catch your eye. There is no better way to get in contact with a ton of girls in a short amount of time than Afro Introductions, and always remember that dating is a numbers game. No matter if you want to start a serious relationship or just get laid the more women you are talking to the more likely it is to happen for you. Lubumbashi Dating Guide After reading about the best ways to meet single girls near you we need to move on to our Lubumbashi dating guide to prepare you for the next step. Getting her number was great, but if you hope to hook up you need to be able to make sure she enjoys going out with you. Any of these romantic restaurants or cocktail bars should work well on a date night: After your meal is over you could head to the Lubum Comedy Club, see a live show at the Centre d’art Waza, or just go party at a bar or club from the singles nightlife list. Day Date Ideas If you have plenty of time on your date during the day then head out to Kundelungu National Park and be sure to visit Lofoi Falls. For some cool outdoor spots in the city you could visit the popular Zoo or the Botanical Gardens. You can get a good sense of the culture and history of the area by checking out: National Museum of Lubumbashi Gallery of Contemporary Art St. Peter & Paul Cathedral Bamako, Mali is a cool town that could make for a really fun trip for the two of you. Tips For Tourists & Expats This section is mostly going to be about traveling, but who knows it may also help you hook up with Lubumbashi girls while you are in town. The local currency has traded at about 1,600 or so per USD for a while, but given the current situation as we post this it is up to around 2,000. We mentioned it before but the best place to book a hotel would be in the city center near Ramone and the protestant university. Being in the right part of town could play a major factor in whether you hook up or not while here. Remember that you shouldn’t be surprised if there are freelance prostitutes at Lubumbashi bars and clubs. Hookers are often around the nightlife in foreign countries, if you walk into a bar and a bunch of sexy women are all over you or if they are sitting around looking like they are on the clock they are probably just trying to find a customer. Enjoy Dating Lubumbashi Girls OK guys, we feel like we have covered this town as well as we can for the time being. If you have any special tips or want to correct any out of date information here please go ahead and do so in the comments. Afro Introductions will be the fastest way to contact a lot of single women near you to hook up with. That wraps up our best places to meet girls in Lubumbashi with our dating guide, enjoy your time here. Tagged africa, dating, girls

You’re Going To Discover… The 3 most important “Interest Signals” that a girl will send you (often subconsciously) when she likes you and exactly what to do when you see each of these signals… How knowing these signals can almost eliminate your chances of getting rejected or making an embarassing mistake with a girl… Why 99% of men completely miss these signals and let cool, attractive women walk out of their lives every week, without even knowing it… The four “magic words” you can tell a girl once you know she likes you, that will increase her interest in you and make sure things go the way you want… And whole ‘lot more!

Yuck. I want to throw up. Why would I write this garbage? Articles about “How to Drive Women Wild” are some of the most clichéd and overdone ideas. Everybody has one. And that’s exactly why I wanted to write this. I wanted to do it justice. Because I got to be honest, I think most people who write about this miss the mark. They rehash the same generic advice on a subject that’s really important to guys who are dating someone new. The men reading just want to keep the passion alive. They know how critical it is to make the connection exciting early on. So as a long-time dating coach, I feel it’s my duty to right this wrong. After tens of thousands of hours helping people improve their dating life — I’m going to reveal all the trade secrets. I guarantee I have a unique perspective you won’t want to miss. Here are the top 20 ways men can drive women wild. REALLY wild. Show up to her home or place of work unannounced. Women love being surprised. Bonus points if you bring a gift like a big bouquet of flowers or 50-piece box of chocolates. She’ll want her co-workers to know just how much you like her. If you just started texting each other, give her a call out of the blue. If she doesn’t answer, leave her a voicemail or send another text telling her to pick up. Show her your strong, intense desire to get to know her better. Send another message to check if she got your previous one from a couple of hours ago. It might not have gone through for some reason or maybe she missed it. Either way, nudging her again lets her know that you mean business. Write her longer texts, perhaps paragraphs. Everyone knows it’s hard to communicate over text, so make sure you elaborate in detail so she understands what you’re trying to say. If you give her multiple questions to answer, even better. That way she has to spend a lot of time responding to you and not anyone else. When you see a woman you find attractive in public, proclaim it loudly for the world to hear. There’s nothing as sexy as a man showing his courage and lack of shame to express his feelings. Whenever a girl asks you where you want to eat, what you want to watch, or what you want to do, tell her “whatever you want.” Women love a guy who always wants to please them and makes them call all the shots. Every time you have sex, make sure to ask her if she orgasmed. If she didn’t, immediately apologize. Women appreciate a man who’s extra attentive to their needs. Before you go exclusive, tell her about all the other women you’ve been seeing at the same time. She will feel jealous and dispensable. This will encourage her to work harder for your attention. If you had a great date together, wait 2-3 days before reaching out to her. This is especially important if you were intimate on that date. Make her wait with anticipation and keep her guessing about your feelings. If a girl doesn’t seem to be interested in you, message her friends and convince them to vouch for you. Because you know that if only she would give you a chance, she could see all the amazing qualities you have. Test the waters of flirting by sending an unsolicited picture of your junk. Women obviously like sex, so it’s only logical to show them what they can expect. A girl who’s unsure about you will change her mind real quick once she sees the goods. Keep searching for the exact right time to go for a kiss. That may take several weeks or months. But if she likes you, she wants to wait for that one-of-a-kind moment. Pretend that you just want to be friends with her for a while. This is called “playing the long game”. You might have to do this for months or even years. Ignore the fact that she’s dating other people because you’re building a real connection here. Finally, when she trusts you as a close confidant, profess your deepest feelings for her all at once. Shower her with lots of compliments, but only about her physical appearance. You can start this even from your first messages. Tell her you think she’s cute, has beautiful eyes, or a nice butt. Keep it broad, don’t get specific, and don’t praise her for her personality or the values she’s worked hard to cultivate. Complain about your ex or the awful experiences you’ve had with other women. This shows a woman that you think she’s special and she’s not like the rest of those low-quality women. When first messaging in online dating, stick to safe, familiar facts. Tell her about which school you went to, when you moved, and how long you’ve been working at your job. Make sure to ask her the same questions. Then inquire about her day and plans for the weekend. Don’t get into anything too personal, specific, or emotional that could give her a chance to judge your incompatibility. Don’t do anything that could be “weird” or offensive on a date. Don’t say anything too bold. Don’t disagree with her about anything, even amicably. Don’t express any of your sexuality. Don’t share your dark sense of humor. Cut off all those quirky parts of your personality. Women get all fired up for a stable, faceless “yes” man. If you feel sparks on a first date, tell her that you’re falling for her. At the very least, let her know you have really strong feelings. Then tell her you’re not going to even consider seeing anyone else and you’re deleting your online dating profile. When things are getting hot and heavy, move quickly to sex. Forgo all the boring foreplay and get right to the good stuff. Show her how you can move hard and fast like a pornstar — because that’s the ultimate depiction of pleasure. If you know you just want a casual connection but feel she wants more, don’t bring it up until she does. In fact, avoid it at all costs. She obviously likes you, so why spoil the connection? If she mentions the relationship talk, tell her you’re still thinking about it so you can keep having sex for the time being. I promise these ideas will drive a woman wild and make her blood boil. Wait a sec… Did you think I meant wild as in aroused or excited about you? Oh my. My sincerest apologies, what a silly misunderstanding. I mean these things will DEFINITELY drive women wild…wild with anger, frustration, and disgust. So don’t do any of these things. Ever. Seriously. If any of those ideas sounded like a good idea to you, you’re mistaken. So what should you do instead? The exact opposite of everything I’ve written. And by doing that, you’ll be following some of the best advice that’s ever come out of one of these “How to Drive Women Wild” articles.

Today I want to share the story of how my little Sister, Daryl, met her husband, Dave. Daryl was in her 20’s, living and dating in New York City. She’s very bright, sarcastic, and intolerant of “games” and B.S. As a result, Daryl had a rough go with the lawyers and bankers available to her in NYC. She decided to branch out. She dated a cute guy in Minnesota, followed by a charming guy in Chicago, followed by a separated heartbreaker in New York. All were impressive men. None lasted. Daryl decided to go on “guyatus”, as she was burned out on both New York and long-distance love affairs. It was around that time that I wrote my first book, “I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating”. Before I sent it to an agent, I wanted to get my bookish sister’s opinion on things. The first thing Daryl said to me was, “Why would anybody read a book by YOU?” The second thing she said to me was, “Online dating is creepy.” I knew I‘d found my target audience. Long story short: Daryl enjoyed my book – even though she thought she wouldn’t. She started dating online – even though she thought she wouldn’t. After a few years of trial and error – and being this close to quitting – Daryl tried a different website I’d recommended, Nerve. On a lark, she replied to a older, bald guy who wrote to her from San Francisco – even though she said she didn’t want to do long-distance again. 7 months later, she moved to San Francisco. 3 years later, the were married. I’m only sharing this with you because my extremely bright sister, was WRONG about everything she firmly believed. The only reason she went on her honeymoon in Bali is because she was open to the possibility that her beliefs weren’t 100% foolproof. If you want to get a different result in your love life, you have to try a different method. If you want to get a different result in your love life, you have to try a different method. Click here to learn how my sister – and thousands of others – have used the Internet SUCCESSFULLY to find love: Contrast Daryl’s story with Amy, a 42-year-old woman who reached out to me for dating coaching last week. I like Amy. She’s successful, family-oriented, looks great for her age, and is an information seeker. After a few minutes, it was clear that had already read a lot of my work.  I LOVE clients like this. Except Amy didn’t become a client. She didn’t become a client because Amy believed – based on her experiences – that there was nothing she could do differently. The real problem is everyone else. “I’ve used JDate for 10 years. There’s nobody on there for me.”  “It’s guys in Los Angeles. They’re Peter Pans who won’t settle down and are always looking for someone younger.” “Men out here don’t appreciate someone with ethnic looks. They all want California blondes.”  “I keep meeting men who are so messed up. They’re all out for sex. They don’t have any money. I’m not going to support a man.” Can you appreciate Amy’s point of view? I sure can. It’s built on years and years of failure, frustration and disappointment. Amy’s experience is REAL. As real as the nose on her face. And because it’s real, she also believes that it’s TRUE. Then again, my sister truly believed that no one would read a book by me, that online dating was creepy, that long-distance relationships were doomed, and that men were all heartbreakers. That was her experience before meeting Dave. I could easily refute Amy’s point of view – but she would rather hold onto it, believing that she’s “right”– than open up to a new way of dating like Daryl did. And it’s a shame, because Amy has SO MUCH to give. As a result, she loses sight of the fact that I’M a guy who dated on JDate, I’M a guy who prefers older women to younger women, I’M a guy who prefers brunettes to blondes, I’M a guy who looks young for my age. I’M a guy who wants to be a good husband and father. And if I’M that kind of guy, it only stands to reason that there are thousands of others like me in Southern California. Amy’s just not meeting them. And she will continue not meeting them… Because her online dating profile and communication need improving. Because her attitude about men needs adjusting. Because her radar for “quality men” is really off. Because she would rather hold onto her glass half-empty worldview and be “right” than try my glass half-full worldview which will create better results. Instead, Amy is going to keep reading my advice and hope that Mr. Right  – an ethnic lover from another state – comes and fishes her out of her office. As I said – I like Amy – but she’s going to be waiting for a while. You don’t have to. After only a few months of dating coaching, you can learn what thousands of women have learned before you – and receive the same empowering results. Here’s what Kathryn had to say to me last week after learning the lessons in my  Finding the One Online program and starting her private coaching: Evan,  Wanted to let you know that your coaching session yesterday was great. While we were on the phone Bob emailed me again and we’re going to a fantastic restaurant Saturday night. He’s sounding more interesting by the minute.  And, this morning I logged onto Match and three hot new guys emailed me, two of whom are local and want to meet me and the other one just wanted to tell me just how super hot I was. The two local guys were responding to my funny “Evan” emails which by now I may not be perfect at but they’re pretty terrific if I do say so myself.  I’ve never had three new guys email me in one day. Something must be in the air!!  K  Kathryn is 59-years-old and has 3 hot guys emailing her. How do you think you can do with my guidance? Click here to get started:  Warmest wishes and much love, Your friend, Evan p.s. Marie was close to giving up on finding love online, until she started doing it my way. I felt defeated after numerous attempts on 3 online dating sites, (four years) going out dancing, at least 3 times a week, in general all my efforts were pretty sad. I wanted to understand how could I put into words that I am a simple person, not my outer beauty, focus on pulling in the one who “gets” me. I needed acceptance in the way online dating operates, the nature of the beast, learning the ability to stand out, what a challenge, but I stood out, thanks to you! I have always been overwhelmed with responses, my delete key was showing signs of aging, LOL, then one day while vacationing in Rocky Point, Mexico, Byron sent me a response, pretty much the same one I always received, “OMG! your not 62! I graciously accepted his compliment and we have been contacting each other every day, numerous times day. One quick note, he is 51, I always attract very young suitors, as young as 33, 47, 50 and even 60 and 70, Byron, is feeling like the “one”. …he is moving mountains to be with me, we live 130 miles apart…I am self-employed, he is a truck driver…go figure.. I felt like there is hope, this has been a four year process, talk about the clock ticking away :)….best investment for my heart…tears come to my eyes often, as I send you my deepest “THANK YOU!”…for being my teacher and I your student for the rest of my life…..age, distance, really! Marie thinks she’s found “the one.” Now it’s YOUR turn. Click here to get started.

You’re Going To Discover… The 3 most important “Interest Signals” that a girl will send you (often subconsciously) when she likes you and exactly what to do when you see each of these signals… How knowing these signals can almost eliminate your chances of getting rejected or making an embarassing mistake with a girl… Why 99% of men completely miss these signals and let cool, attractive women walk out of their lives every week, without even knowing it… The four “magic words” you can tell a girl once you know she likes you, that will increase her interest in you and make sure things go the way you want… And whole ‘lot more!

Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Email WhatsApp Pinterest Print You’ve developed a secret crush, or perhaps you have been harboring deep feelings for somebody in your life. If you are wondering how revealing your feelings could complicate your relationship, GoMarry.com is here to guide you through the process. You’re Not Getting Any Younger Let’s face it, none of us are getting any younger and the future begins to matter more when you realize this. There isn’t any time like the present and you may be pleasantly surprised at your crushes response. If you are rejected, move onto the next step. There is Support Friendship is an amazing thing. Your good friends will always have your back. Whether it’s to celebrate in your new relationship or to offer you support if the person doesn’t have the same feelings as you do. Friends will always be there for you. It’s Their Right And yours. Whether it’s good or bad, you deserve to let someone know how you feel, and they deserve to know the truth. The good news is that the person will probably respect you a whole lot more after the initial shock as worn off. No matter the outcome, if you want to keep your relationship and friendship honest, then the truth is always the right way to go. It’s Usually an Explanation When feelings change, so do your actions. Explaining how you feel my explanation to the other person why you have been acting so strangely. If you value the future of your friendship or relationship, an explanation for your odd behavior will set things straight. You will have to consider though, that it may take the other person a little while to process what you have told them. What’s the Worst That Can Happen? Honestly, what is the absolute worst that can happen? Most times we imagine a much worse scenario than what it turns out to be and let’s face it, if your friendship is ruined somehow by your confession, take comfort in knowing there are plenty of fish in the sea.  Respect We’ll let you in on a secret. Men talk as much as women do and when he shares what has happened with your confession, his friends will probably respect you enormously. The choice to tell someone how you feel will always invite admiration from spectators, even if it doesn’t come from the person it is directed at. Read More: How To Make Them Respect You In A Relationship And Finally Why not? When it comes down to it, the choice to tell someone how you feel will bring you closure and will probably help the other person to understand exactly where you’re coming from. At the end of the day, the only person who should judge you is you. Knowing that you have been honest and open, regardless of what the confession is, deserves a pat on the back from you to you. As long as you consider the other person, you realize that they have their feelings and you are not going out the way to hurt them, why not?

What makes a man decide to leave his wife — What makes a man leave his wife for another woman? As a coach and counselor for women on dating and relationships, I often run into situations where a marriage has ended. And there’s always the question about what makes a man leave his wife like this.  A woman can feel betrayed in her marriage when this happens, and it can leave deep emotional scars. And some women I coach are also dating a married man and want to know:  What are the signs he will leave his wife for you, if you are the other woman? And, even though women leave men at a slightly higher rate, it seems to be much more painful for women to deal with this kind of trauma. You may have cause for concern in your own marriage. He may be showing you signs that there’s another woman in his life. You need to know what he intends to do about all of it. And you sure as heck want to know if he intends to leave you. Because that’s the statistics are not pretty. Over 50% of all marriages will end in divorce.  The answers I’m about to show you might surprise you. Here is some advice for a woman who wants to save her marriage or her relationship. And make sure you stick around to the very end. I’ll tell you a little bit about how you save your relationship. Because if you don’t do something, the situation will only get worse. Is He Leaving? Sign 1: No Appreciation Most men show their love with acts of Love. They will help you out, give you advice, take action where needed. And one of the things he looks for is appreciation for his showing love in this way. A man needs your acknowledgement and gratitude. Frequently, women do not see men’s behavior as “loving” – misinterpreting it as ego or something else because it’s not how she would express it. What this does is it leaves a man in a situation where he’s not getting appreciated for the love he’s showing. He doesn’t know that she’s not seeing what he’s doing as love, so he just feels rejected on an emotional level. This is a lot more common than most women are aware. Of course both of you have a need for appreciation. I’m not saying he shouldn’t appreciate you. But this article is not about how to get him to appreciate you, it’s about recognizing the things that are making him pull away from your relationship or your marriage. One of the best things you can do in your relationship is to set aside time to recognize the things you’re missing when it comes to appreciating your partner. Sometimes you have to have the other person point out where they were loving you if you’re not seeing it. Of course it makes it a lot easier when you can recognize the other person’s love right off the bat. But some relationships start out with a period of getting to know the other person’s communication style when it comes to love. Be on the lookout for his acts of love and appreciate them. Sign 2: Money Money… You’re probably aware that money is one of the biggest areas of contention and struggle within a relationship. If you’re not on the same page as him with respect to spending, you should spend some time to get that straightened out. Women and men often have very different ideas about how money works within a relationship. You can’t take this for granted. Most couples wait until this becomes a problem instead of facing it head on. You must know how the other person sees their spending habits. And how you can come to some mutual understanding to avoid conflict over money.  Some of the areas about money you should discuss are: Budgets – how much you spent on what Savings – how much to save – and on what Recreational spending – what to spend on fun & experiences Retirement – what are your goals for money later in life? Again most people do not tackle these difficult questions upfront in their relationships before they get married. And it’s no surprise when it comes up again later and they still haven’t figure out how to solve it. Talk about money early on. Figure out how you will handle your money together. Sign 3: Infidelity… I don’t like the term “cheating.”  It’s often a very harsh indictment that is driven by anger and betrayal. Both of which are legitimate emotions to feel, of course.  BUT the truth of the matter is that both men and women cheat in about the same numbers.  And the person who is “cheating” is not doing it to hurt the other person – no matter how much it might seem that way!  They’re doing it to get their needs met. It’s very tempting to take this sort of thing as a personal attack, but it really is just one other person trying to be happy. In any way they can. They may not be doing it the right way, but it’s not a deliberate act of malice. Now the interesting thing about infidelity is that it’s not really the reason why a man decides to leave his wife. It may be the crisis event, but it’s not THE reason he leaves. In reality, it was both of them. Two people not communicating well, not connecting well, and not devoting themselves to the goal of one healthy relationship. Sure, it may feel like one person was more of a victim in the relationship than the other. In truth, it was always both of them.  Perhaps they were not well matched, or they didn’t have the right skills, or they were just taking their relationship too far. Maybe it just should have stayed a short fling. Whatever the reason, the cheating was caused by problems and events that started way before the infidelity. In other words blaming a cheating partner on the end of a relationship is like blaming a car for breaking down. It’s really more about the maintenance and paying attention to how well things are running. Sign 4: Changes Let’s face it people change. Sometimes we grow together, and sometimes in different directions. What I’m talking about here is obviously growing apart. This happens frequently in marriages where the couple got together at a very early age, or they simply didn’t know enough about where the other person was heading. But this can be overcome simply by communicating well. And making sure that your self-esteem does not feel threatened by the other person’s self-growth and development. In the end, that’s what gets in the way most of all.  Not the fact that they are changing, but that their change seems to threaten us. And it helps to remember that change happens whether we want it to or not. Unfortunately most change happens without us noticing until it’s too late. If you’re communicating regularly, and you’re connecting with your partner regularly, you will have a distinct advantage in your relationship. You’ll notice when things change and you’ll know what to do about them. Sign 5: Acting Up From Insecurities and Unresolved Personal Issues The Ugly Truth is that many people who get married do so to cover up their own issues that they don’t want to deal with.  It’s much easier to date somebody who gives you a sense of self-worth then it is to spend a bunch of hours with a therapist or counselor working out your inner demons. Ultimately, I believe that childhood issues that are never addressed are really the sole cause of almost all of the world’s problems when we become an adult. Look at our governments, our institutions, and the dysfunction of so many different parts of our society. It all came from people who hadn’t healed from the problems of their childhood. Of course this sounds over simplified, but ultimately it’s true. One thing every person needs to do when they’re in a relationship is seek a little bit of outside feedback. You don’t have to jump into therapy, but it sure is a good idea if you know you have stuff to heal and resolved. At the very least talk to friends you trust and you know have a clear viewpoint of what’s going on. Not just somebody who will agree with you on everything. That kind of relationship to me is boring, because it’s not challenging. (And it’s delusional in many ways too.) Sign 6: Intimacy Issues Yes, what I’m talking about here is more along the lines of physical intimacy –  in the bedroom.  When there are physical issues that come up between two people in a relationship, they can be pretty significant. But again, just like with infidelity, these issues can be tackled and handled. If they are caught early on. But the most crippling and destructive force in relationships is complacency. The willingness to pretend something isn’t happening that obviously is. And it’s usually this complacency that creates a marriage destined to fail. When one or both people in the relationship refused to confront the issues when they come up instead of pretending they’re not there. Bedroom problems are no different. When those needs are not getting met, that’s when we start seeking our own solution elsewhere. Very often this particular problem shows up when a man interprets a woman’s sex drive differently, not understanding how women approach intimacy. And the exact same thing happens when a woman misunderstands how men work.  Of course the fear each person holds inside is that their partner is no longer attracted to them. And this is usually not the case. But this begins a silent war of inattention and disconnection. Sign 7: Needs Aren’t Recognized All relationships go through a tough time now and again. It’s only natural. But when your needs aren’t seen, or his needs aren’t visible, that’s when problems can really show up. Each person in a relationship needs their needs validated and seen. We need to know that what we want in a relationship is both acceptable and known. But if we suspect that our partner isn’t noticing or caring about our needs, that’s when we start to protect ourselves. Instead of being vulnerable and resolving the issue, we put up our shields. And if there isn’t some kind of corrective action taken – like couples therapy or counseling – then one or both of them might feel that the situation is hopeless. It’s not hopeless because there is no hope; it’s hopeless because neither the man or woman has the skill to navigate their way out of their problems. “But What If I Am The ‘Other Woman’? Will he leave his wife for me?” So what do you do if you are The Other Woman wondering if he will leave his wife for you?  First off, you have to realize the situation you are in.  FIRST: Your emotions might have you completely wrapped up in this man. You know he’s in the arms of another woman, whether or not he’s actually in love with her. Your jealousy probably pokes at you every single day. All you think about is how you and him can be together. Sometimes without even asking the question:  Should we be together? SECOND: He is split in two. This guy is not really a valid candidate for a relationship. Why? Because he’s already in a relationship. That might sound a little bit silly to say, but you’d be surprised how many people don’t think about this really when they get into an affair. He may have children from his marriage, and he has an established lifestyle with this woman. As much as you may want to believe he will leave her for you, in all likelihood he will not. In fact, many women find that they turn out to be just a catalyst – someone who inspires him to get out of his marriage, but he doesn’t end up staying with her – his ‘mistress,’ if you’ll forgive the term. The best thing you can do is to look at what got you into this relationship in the first place. Why did you choose an unavailable man? You might tell yourself otherwise, but the truth is that he is not available. The only way he will leave his wife for you is if: His marriage is so horrible that it’s a complete nightmare (kind of rare) You and he forge an unbreakable connection that not only supports him, but sustains you and your emotional needs as well (also pretty rare, sorry to say) The best thing you can possibly do is to put this relationship on hold until he leaves his wife. and even then, he would still need months –  perhaps a year or more –  to heal from his broken marriage. Because every breakup requires time to heal our emotions. And Men probably take longer given that we don’t understand our emotions as well as women do. So you might consider that you could be waiting for a while to inherit a healthy whole man. Now of course I’m not so naive to believe that you would wait around. I know darn well most women would jump right into a relationship with this guy. The unfortunate thing is that it probably won’t work out.  I’m not saying this because I believe there’s anything inherently wrong in what happened. But the fact of the matter is that a man fresh out of a marriage is not a good partner.  But in the end the most important thing is to know what to do when you think he might be leaving you. Let’s start with the first tip to get him back: The critical skill for relationships is empathy… EMPATHY = the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. But that’s not all. The truth is there are three different forms of empathy : Cognitive Empathy – This is the kind of empathy where you understand another person’s experience. Like the saying: “Walk in another person’s shoes” or “understand their perspective” Emotional Empathy – This is where you actually experience the other person’s emotions. Usually this is not very productive and difficult to work with.  Compassionate empathy – This is where you feel someone’s pain and take action to help them out. It’s that last one that is probably the most important one. Ask yourself: Do you feel his pain? And can you separate yourself from it to help him as best you can? Because in order for him to come around and re-invest himself in your relationship again, he’s going to need to know that you are on his side. Men can be difficult to reach. There’s no doubt about that. But if you think that he is flawed because he doesn’t speak his feelings the way a woman would, that could hold you back. Which brings me to the most important tip to bring him back to you: You must know how to connect with him. The only thing you can do that will guarantee the connection between you and him is to know how he feels connected to you! If you don’t know, it’s only a matter of time before he will start to look for that connection somewhere else. If you’d like to know more about how men feel that unbreakable love connection, go read this special report… Discover His Connection Code

Were you ever in a draining relationship in which you felt that you gave too much? Have you considered that you should probably give less to your partner in the future? It’s a painful problem, but giving less isn’t the solution. Choosing a better partner is. Podcast: Play in new window | Download Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Email | Stitcher | Spotify | Blubrry | Enjoy the Love U Podcast? Please leave a short review on Apple Podcasts. Were you ever in a draining relationship in which you felt you gave too much? Have you considered that you should probably give less to your future partner? It’s a painful problem. But giving less isn’t the solution. Choosing a better partner is. I’m Evan Marc Katz, Dating Coach for Smart, Strong, Successful Women, and your personal trainer for love. Welcome to the Love U Podcast. Stay to the end of this video to learn the only kind of man you should marry. When we’re done, I’ll let you know how you could apply to love you to create a passionate relationship that makes you feel safe, heard, and understood. So, I got a client. She’s in Love U. Her name is Jessica, and Jessica was telling me her story when we first started coaching. And her story is a heartbreaking one and it’s a common one. Jessica felt drained. She was in a 22-year marriage with a man who didn’t appreciate her at all. They had a few good years at the beginning, but after the kids were born, everything sort of came apart. He was focused on making money. She was focused on raising the kids. And they fell into their roles. They stopped communicating with each other. They stopped having sex. They stopped being what they were in their life when they were going through courtship. And they turned into what happens to couples, glorified roommates with very separate roles in the house. And eventually, it fell to Jessica because women are often the emotional caretakers and relationships that fell to Jessica to try to make things better when she realized they were leading separate lives under one roof. She tried. That’s important to recognize. Jessica tried. She encouraged her husband to go golfing with his guy friends. She made dinner for him regularly. She initiated sex even when she was tired. She was patient with his mood swings, gave him space to rant after a day at work. She essentially became the mother and the father of the household. She was running everything, taking care of the kids, taking care of him, not taking too much care of herself. So, if she had a cup, it was like the cup was draining. It was like it had a hole in it. Nothing was replenishing her. And her husband for two decades didn’t say thank you. Never reciprocated her efforts. Never told her she was beautiful. Never came to her to figure out how he can do his part to make their relationship better. And so, Jessica, my client, early 50s wasted most of her adult life in an emotionally dissatisfying marriage where she would give and give and give and give and never really receive anything in return. Does that strike a chord with you? If it does, I’m really sorry, but I’m very glad you’re listening today because it may be tempting the next time around to conclude that all men are like your ex, selfish takers with little capacity to listen or act from a place of generosity. But that’s not true. It may also be tempting to conclude that the reason your relationship went bad was that you gave so much. That’s also not true. The problem is that you’ve been giving it to the wrong person. Being a giver is essential in any relationship. My wife is a giver. I am a giver. Neither of us keeps score. And that’s why both of us win. So, the problem here as I see it, and I would like you to see it too, is not that you’re a giver or that you give too much. The problem is that you’ve been giving it to the wrong person. You’ve been expending enormous amounts of emotional energy on giving to a taker. And a taker will always take and see how much he can get without giving in return. As long as you keep giving, he has no incentive to stop taking. So this is a losing battle that you can’t turn around since you can’t change a man’s character. But if you date a giver yourself and you give it back to him in equal measure, now you’ve got a formula for a happy marriage. In my second book, 2006, I called it The Platinum Rule. If the golden rule is to do on to others, the platinum rule is to figure out how to do better. Each day I get out of work here by five thirty or six o’clock. I wonder how can I make my wife’s life better. I’m not saying that’s normal for every husband. I listen to women every day. So, I really try to apply the stuff I do here. But I do ask how can I make my wife’s life better? Maybe it is just listening to her vent for 15 minutes about the day she had with the kids. Maybe it is by doing the dishes or folding the laundry to take the burden off of her. Maybe it’s just by sitting by her side and zoning out in front of the TV because she just does not want to talk. But in that time, it’s not about me. It’s about her. When I make it about her, when I give my wife what she needs, what do you think is gonna happen? Happy wife. Happy life. The person who is a giver in this instance, me, builds up a reservoir of goodwill and discovers in turn that she’s going to receive just as much back. Not if you’re with a taker when you’re a taker, it doesn’t work. But if you’re with a giver and you give to a giver. Now you’ve got a recipe for a great life, but it takes choosing wisely with your man. Choose a taker, you’ll always be on the losing end and have your cup perpetually drained with no one filling it. But if you choose a giver and you give back to him, I guarantee you your gonna be happy. Just you watch. Thank you so much. My name is Evan Marc Katz. Thank you for being a part of the Love U Podcast. For more episodes like this on YouTube, click the subscribe button and ring the bell to ensure you get notified whenever new content comes out. If you’re listening to the audio podcast, please scroll below, leave an honest review for Apple. More reviews equals more awareness of the Love U Podcast and more listeners means more love in the world. And if you’re interested in Love U, click on the link below to apply. Thanks a lot. I’ll talk to you soon. Download my free special report, The 8 Massive Mistakes You’re Making in Relationships Get the man of your dreams fast by applying to enroll in Love U.

You’re Going To Discover… The 3 most important “Interest Signals” that a girl will send you (often subconsciously) when she likes you and exactly what to do when you see each of these signals… How knowing these signals can almost eliminate your chances of getting rejected or making an embarassing mistake with a girl… Why 99% of men completely miss these signals and let cool, attractive women walk out of their lives every week, without even knowing it… The four “magic words” you can tell a girl once you know she likes you, that will increase her interest in you and make sure things go the way you want… And whole ‘lot more!

If you’re dating a guy, do you truly feel like a priority to him? Or do you feel like an option? If he’s got a free night, does he call you, eager to spend time with you… …or does he veg out on the couch, bingeing Netflix? If he’s hanging out with friends, does he make sure to include you… …or does he “forget” to invite you altogether? When you want to be his priority, there’s a certain way to go about getting what you want. [embedded content] In this video, I address two situations: one where you are only an option (and that’s okay) and the other where you should be his priority. It’s important to know the difference. Once you are in an exclusive relationship, if you don’t feel like a man’s priority, understanding what his priorities are can be helpful. It may be a matter of this man needing to shift his mindset and change his priorities. You may need to give him time to adjust. But remember this: you shouldn’t have to force a man to make you a priority. If he’s not doing it after some time, he might not be right for you. Talk to me in the comments below: have you ever felt like you weren’t a priority in a relationship? How did you handle it? Your Coach, P.S. Both of the scenarios I cover in this video are a part of the Little Love Steps program. Take the course, and you’ll be sure to move to the relationship phase! Share the Love

If you are looking for the best places to meet girls in Cape Cod with a dating guide then you are in luck. Well maybe not luck you probably just know how to use Google but either way we will be telling you all about where to pick up single women and the best spots for a date night all around the area. Table of Contents We always like to begin with the nightlife and hooking up, next we will dive into meeting single Cape Cod girls during the day or how you can use online dating sites to make things happen a little quicker. Date night ideas and all types of stuff to do at any time day or night will also be discussed. You can look through more of our posts for cities around the Northeast if you want to find some new cool cities to visit in the future. Nightclubs & Pick Up Bars These days a lot of guys will only care about a list of singles bars and nightclubs to pick up Cape Cod girls so here it is: Torino at 415 Main St, Hyannis Embargo at 453 Main St, Hyannis Cleat & Anchor at 243 Lower County Rd, Dennis Port Sundancers at 116 Main St, West Dennis Lost Dog Pub at 1374 MA-134, South Dennis Sand Dollar Bar & Grill at 50 East-West Dennis Rd O’Shea’s Olde Inn at 348 Main St, West Dennis Grumpy’s Pub at 29 Locust St, Falmouth Quahog Republic at 97 Spring Bars Rd, Falmouth The Underground Bar at 293 Commercial St, Provincetown Nor’East Beer Garden at 206 Commercial St, Provincetown Harbor Lounge at 359 Commercial St, Provincetown Beachcomber at 1120 Cahoon Hollow Rd, Wellfleet Longfellow’s Pub at 182 Old Town House Rd, South Yarmouth [embedded content] We want to point out that this is definitely not a big time party destination so if you are planning a trip in hopes of hooking up with Cape Cod girls you may want to choose another destination. We aren’t saying you can’t get laid here, but you have lots of things working against you. First off, this is more of a family friendly vacation destination than a raucous spring break type spot. Secondly, the island is really spread out so there might be a good party going down somewhere but if you are in the wrong town you probably won’t find out about it. Main Street in Hyannis and Commercial Street in Provincetown are probably the two best areas for singles nightlife. You can find more going on in Falmouth at the Southern tip as well. Those links will lead you to hotels in each area, and if your goal is to hook up you probably will want to stay in one of those towns. Of course there will be a lot more going on during peak tourist season, and if you happen to be here outside of that you will probably have more fun trying to pick up girls at bars in Boston which isn’t too far away. Meet Cape Cod Girls During The Day Our best advice would be to go out to the main street of whatever town you are in and look for single Cape Cod women at shops, cafes, or restaurants and go introduce yourself. Being that things are so spread out you just really never know where the right place will be. There are some beaches around but they aren’t really party or pick up spots.  There is always the old reliable of trying to meet girls at malls and shopping districts like: The Cape Cod Mall Capetown Plaza Yarmouth Shopping Plaza Lemon Tree Village Chat With Girls Online Alright guys, we aren’t going to claim that there are any great online dating options here, meeting Cape Cod girls online will be a lot easier during peak season but you can’t be sure how long they will be sticking around. For that reason the dating site we are going to discuss is more of a hook up site. We also think you may want to look into using it in your hometown before or after your trip. Adult Friend Finder is the biggest hook up site in the world and it might be able to help you get laid here, and we are sure it will be able to help you get laid in many of the biggest cities around America. When a girl near you signs up you can rest assured she is ready to hook up as soon as she can. You can go ahead and try using it here, but you will also be shocked at how many girls in American and European cities use this site when they want to get laid soon. So while you can try to use Adult Friend Finder to hook up with Cape Cod girls, also consider it while you are sitting in your home town not knowing where to go to have some fun. As mentioned, you probably are going to be surprised at the options you will find. Cape Cod Dating Guide We just fully covered the best ways for you to meet single girls so it is time to pivot to our Cape Cod dating guide. We all know hooking up will only be possible if you are able to show her a good time on your date night. Any of these romantic restaurants and cocktail bars could do the trick: Yarmouth House at 335 MA-28, West Yarmouth Chillingsworth at 2449 Main St, Brewster Ceraldi at 15 Kendrick Ave Next to the Pier, Wellfleet The Mews at 429 Commercial St, Provincetown Buca’s Tuscan Roadhouse at 4 Depot Rd, Harwich Candleberry Inn at 1882 Main St, Brewster Old Yarmouth Inn at 223 MA-6A, Yarmouth Port Scargo Cafe at 799 Main St, Dennis The Ocean House at 425 Old Wharf Rd, Dennis Port Cuvee at Chatham Inn, 359 Main St Suite 2 Captain Linnell House at 137 Skaket Beach Rd Woodshed at 1993 Main St, Brewster Try and find a bar with live music for drinks and dancing if possible. The Wellfleet Drive-In can make for a unique date night and they have miniature golf right nearby. For something a bit more grown up you could see a live show at The Cape Playhouse in Dennis. Day Date Ideas Some of our favorite places around the area to take advantage of nice weather outdoors together are: Monomoy National Wildlife Refuge Rail Trail National Seashore Nickerson State Park White Cedar Swamp Trail Of course many girls would love to lay out on the beach on a date during the day: Mayflower Beach Nauset Beach Race Point Beach Marconi Beach Coast Guard Beach Old Silver Beach Chatham Lighthouse Beach You could sign up for some dune tours, or for some places that are a little more sophisticated try: Heritage Museums & Gardens Sandwich Glass Museum Museum of Natural History John F Kennedy Hyannis Museum Somewhere like Martha’s Vineyard could make a great spot for your next romantic vacation. Enjoy Dating Cape Cod Girls We feel like we have covered this town as well as we can for the time being. If you have any special tips or want to correct any out of date information here please go ahead and do so in the comments. Remember those single women near you on Adult Friend Finder who are always ready to hook up both here and in your home town. That wraps up our best places to meet girls in Cape Cod with our dating guide, enjoy your time here. Tagged dating, girls, north america, usa

You’re Going To Discover… The 3 most important “Interest Signals” that a girl will send you (often subconsciously) when she likes you and exactly what to do when you see each of these signals… How knowing these signals can almost eliminate your chances of getting rejected or making an embarassing mistake with a girl… Why 99% of men completely miss these signals and let cool, attractive women walk out of their lives every week, without even knowing it… The four “magic words” you can tell a girl once you know she likes you, that will increase her interest in you and make sure things go the way you want… And whole ‘lot more!

You’re Going To Discover… The 3 most important “Interest Signals” that a girl will send you (often subconsciously) when she likes you and exactly what to do when you see each of these signals… How knowing these signals can almost eliminate your chances of getting rejected or making an embarassing mistake with a girl… Why 99% of men completely miss these signals and let cool, attractive women walk out of their lives every week, without even knowing it… The four “magic words” you can tell a girl once you know she likes you, that will increase her interest in you and make sure things go the way you want… And whole ‘lot more!