I’m a dating coach, so believe me: I see your pain. I see you working to get your profile perfect so you can appeal to your ideal woman. I watch you pore over your profile photos, get all the adjectives just right, and send out artfully crafted messages. And when you finally start dating someone you like, it’s celebration time. Things couldn’t be better. Well, except for one thing. After a few months of dating, you realize her Tinder account is still active. WTF?! Welcome to the oh-so-lovely world of online dating. It’s definitely not like the old days where you ask her to go steady and lock it down with a promise ring. Today’s dating world changes quickly. It’s hard to keep up… and even harder to know where you stand. So the question becomes, do you call her out? You might be surprised to hear me say this, but generally, the answer is no. Calling her out on her Tinder profile will make you look over sensitive and insecure if you’re still in the early stages of dating. Nowadays, people shop around. While it’s easy to get attached to someone when you first start dating, it’s healthy to explore as many opportunities as you can first. That’s why I recommend MegaDating to everyone. Of course, not all cases are the same. So in this post, I want to go over both sides of the issue. Let’s take a look at why you shouldn’t confront her if her Tinder account is still active (and the one reason why you should). Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Call Her Out Despite what you may think, calling her out could actually cause more problems than it solves. Some reasons why you shouldn’t say anything if you notice her Tinder account is still active might be… You don’t really want a relationship. Before you pull out your phone and send her that crazy, all-caps text, think about what it will mean. If you confront her, you’ll give her the message that you want to be exclusive. Is that actually true? Be careful what you wish for. What if you ask her why her Tinder account is still active, and she immediately apologizes and takes it down? You may have gotten what you wanted, but also something you didn’t want… a girlfriend. (Trust me, if you tell her to take down her Tinder and then don’t date her exclusively after that, she’ll be more than pissed.) Maybe this is obvious. But you’d be surprised how many guys don’t really think about it. And I get why. Men are very action-oriented. “Her Tinder account is still active… I need to do something!” you might think. Guys are praised for making quick decisions and moving forward, sometimes at lightning speed. But that doesn’t always work if the right response is to wait. Take some time to really get to know her. Sure, she may be hot. And these days, it may be hard to find good-looking prospects who aren’t totally wacko. But is she really the right one for you? If you don’t have an answer for that yet, don’t push the envelope by insisting that she get off Tinder. Not only will that lock things down too early, but you’ll give her the impression that you don’t think you’re good enough to compete. Bad move. She’s not that into you. Before you go all out and ask why her Tinder account is still active, consider the fact that she’s not that interested in you. That doesn’t mean that things won’t change. But it won’t help your case if you get all butt-hurt about it. Take a breath and try to figure out if she seems interested in being with you, or not. Then you’ll know whether you should confront her or not. If she’s into you, she probably texts or calls you on a regular basis (you don’t have to always reach out to her first). Likely, you’ve met her family… or at least some of her friends. She’s stayed over at your place more than once and has even started to leave her stuff there (toothbrush, hair stuff, an extra change of clothes, etc.) She talks about taking a trip with you someday (damn that Corona) and hints at the possibility of a long-term future. Now, if she’s NOT into you… well, you’ll know that too. When you call or text her, she’ll take hours — maybe even more than that — to respond. She won’t make much of an effort to integrate you into her life. You won’t know her friends or her family. She won’t be very affectionate. Maybe she’ll even talk about other guys. If you were to be really honest, she’ll treat you more like a friend (or worse, a meal ticket). If you see signs that she’s not really that into you, don’t bother asking why her Tinder is still active. You should know. Her Tinder account is still active… but you haven’t had “the talk.” Let’s say she does show signs that she likes you. You feel confident that she sees you as boyfriend material even though she’s still on Tinder. Have you had an explicit conversation about where you stand? Have you both agreed to be exclusive? Or, are you assuming? You need to be clear about what you want from her. If she doesn’t know, she can’t give it to you. Honestly, though, I wouldn’t consider dating exclusively until you’ve gone out at least eight times, had sex, and met people in her life (family/friends). Without those things, you really don’t know a person well enough to decide whether you’re compatible. And if you both haven’t explicitly stated that you’re in a monogamous relationship, then there’s no harm in either of you continuing to date. In fact, if you’re not ready to have “the talk” yet, you both should be MegaDating. I recommend this to both men and women to really get to know the dating market, build their confidence, and — this is most important — get rid of all that nervous energy that comes with meeting up with multiple strangers you talk to online. To MegaDate, you maximize your dating efforts to meet as many people as possible. I can show you how to do this in my private and group coaching programs. Then, once you get to the point of seeing 15 people in 30-60 days (it helps to stack 2 dates on weekend days and keep all first dates to less than one hour) you’ll start to see the benefits. Your tension around dating will ease, making it easier to hone in on what you want. By the time you meet the “one,” you’ll be so good at presenting yourself that things will go effortlessly. Your attachment style is getting in the way. If you follow my articles, then you know I often talk about identifying your attachment style. It’s such a great tool to help you recognize problem behaviors. And in this case, your attachment style could be the reason why you’re so anxious to find out why her Tinder account is still active. Let me back up first. There are four main attachment styles that predict how people act in relationships. The healthiest attachment style is “secure.” That means you are confident in yourself and the fact that you deserve love. You don’t need to chase people and have no problem giving them space when they need it. On the other hand, you give love freely. Being emotionally intimate doesn’t scare you, so you tend to be very open and loving in relationships. The other (unhealthy) attachment styles are “anxious” and “avoidant.” If you have an anxious attachment style, you don’t feel confident that your partner will be there for you. So you become clingy in order to keep their attention. Your partners tend to get tired of your insecure vibe and pull away. Those with avoidant attachment styles will shy away from intimacy. (This is why they tend to react the most to anxious partners!) Avoidants are hyper-independent and never want to get too close. They need their space, but often ask for it excessively. So what does this all mean? If you’ve been dating only three months and are worried that her Tinder account is still active, you may have an anxious attachment style. If you do, then you’re probably reacting out of insecurity. See this post or read the book Attached to learn more about attachment theory and see what your style is. If you can curb your anxious ways, you won’t need to confront her about anything. You’re still on Tinder yourself! How do you know her account is still active? Is it because you’re creeping too? Like attracts like. If you’re on the app, then do you really need to question her about it? Most likely, if she’s checking Tinder, she sees you’re on there, too. She might be waiting for the day when your profile says it’s deleted before removing hers. So until you’re ready to do that, you should probably keep quiet. Or… you could man up and have that awkward conversation. If you’re sure you want to be exclusive and you know she’d be into that, then bring it up gently. Say that even though you’re both on Tinder, it would be great to put the dating apps on pause and see where things go. Don’t make it accusatory, and don’t make it about her. Otherwise, she’ll just get angry and defensive. When to Say Something If Her Tinder Account is Still Active As I said at the beginning of this post, I see only one reason to call a woman out if you notice her Tinder account is still active. That is… She’s actually cheating. Are you in a committed, monogamous relationship that you both agreed to? Maybe you trusted her so much, your friend had to break it to you that she’s still on the app. If so, that’s different. If this is the case, you want to ask her in person what the deal is. Try not to make assumptions here, but rather, ask questions that help you to understand her thought process. She might have forgotten to delete her account. Maybe her profile is still up but she never checks it. Or if a friend told you, then maybe they were just wrong… so don’t jump to conclusions. You don’t want to come out guns blazing and ruin something good over a misunderstanding. Of course, if she really is seeing other people behind your back, then you have a problem. Hopefully, that’s not the case, but if it is, calling her out was the right thing to do. Her Tinder Account is Still Active: Wrap-Up New relationships are touchy. Since you don’t know each other that well yet, you fear that everything could be a problem. When you see that her Tinder account is still active, it’s hard to keep your feelings in check. But when you’re dating, you must realize your own worth. Immediately assuming that somebody else’s active profile is a sign of “relationship doom” doesn’t help the situation. It also doesn’t show you in your best light… so you could end up creating what you fear. It could turn out to be a self-fulfilling prophecy if your insecurity ends up turning her off. Then again, if she really is taking advantage of you, then you have to be confident enough to draw a boundary. That’s why coaching can be so critical. To solve these kinds of subtle dating dilemmas, you need to know the ins and outs of how men and women think, as well as how to communicate in ways that don’t sabotage things. In my programs, you’ll learn the art of dating so well that you’ll make smarter decisions that are less reactive. I offer private and group coaching sessions for anyone who wants to learn master-level dating techniques, making their dating life more fun, and ultimately find the person they want. Reach out to me (or another emlovz coach) for an intro call to get started. We’ll discuss your situation in more detail, co-create a short strategy, and see if our coaching or matchmaking programs are right for you.

 Click here to Discover 3 Shocking Under-The-Radar Touches That Turn Hot Girls On & Get Them to Kiss YOU First… I know a way to get a girl to kiss you at the end of every first date you go on. It’s simple, it’s easy, and it puts her in control, which women these days really love. And the best part is, it never fails. Seriously, this has never not worked for me. Hi, I’m David Dupree, and as part of my new series, I’m answering your most difficult, burning questions related to sex and dating. And today, I want to show you the truth about closing with a woman–what works, what doesn’t, and how to get her to lean in and kiss you (yes, not the other way around) every single time. Because honestly, if you follow the right steps… and get some practice under your belt… … then it’s a LOT easier than you may realize. So let’s get started! Catch The Full Video Transcript Below… David here, had a question from Adam. He says, “David I have a problem. I can’t close. I go on plenty of dates with girls, and it seems they’re interested in me, when I try to kiss them at the end of the night, they either turn their cheek or they go for the hug. So I’ve never been able to work up the courage to ask them back to my place. How can I get laid? What’s the best way to get a girl to come back to my place and sleep with me?” So closing is about escalating. Every guy who has trouble closing … well most of them anyway… they immediately escalate, they don’t go take the ramp. Then there are guys who have trouble closing, and it’s because they don’t get to the closing place, and you’re right, probably right not to. If you feel like, “I think she would have said no.” CONTROVERSIAL VIDEO: These Subtle Touch Tricks Get Her Soaking Wet, Naked & On Top of You In Bed (Even If You’re “Just Friends” Right Now)! You might be right, the truth is though, you’ll never know and how you find out is simple. First I’m going to give you three rules, and they are simple. 1) Reduce the point of escalation. 2) One step forward, two steps back. 3) Pay attention to her. So here’s how it works, including my 3-step kiss close that gets her to kiss you in the end. 1) Reduce the point of escalation Reduce the escalation point is the main point and everything flows from there. Closing is a big picture item. Of course, you want to close, you want to get her back to your place, but there’s a lot of steps that come in between that and they … some of them are touching, kissing, eye contact, getting closer, physically closer, having the conversation get sexual. All of those things, if you put them in an order, you’ll realize that some of them are more aggressive than others, some of them need more than other. In fact, when a woman says, “He’s moving too fast.” She means that you are escalating without calibrating. Generally when a woman feels a guy is creepy and especially if you say, when you go for the kiss, she turns away, that means you had no idea what was going to happen. The reason you had no idea what was going to happen is because you went for the kiss too soon. WARNING: These Shocking “Touch Tricks” Turn Hot Girls On & Make Them Want to Bang Your Brains Out (Don’t Use These Unless You Want Sex Right Away!)… You didn’t escalate, you didn’t climb that ramp, reduce the escalation points and you will go further. My guess is, if you go for the kiss and you get a hug, you have an advantage over a lot of the calibrating guys. In other words, your advantage is, you’d go for the kiss, at least you try, you close. Closing is required for getting better at closing. However, if you’re not getting the kiss, the simple method is, reduce what you’re trying to get. That doesn’t mean don’t go for the kiss, but before you go for the kiss, go for the smaller things. I’ll give you … in a second I’m going to give you my kiss close, but before I do, I want to give you that, the ramp up. 2) One Step Forward, Two Steps Back You’re talking to a person, she laughs, you reach in and touch. That moment, you are rewarding her good behavior, she’s showing, I like your behavior. Now you’re touching, touching is an escalation. Notice, however, my escalation will not be rejected, it will never be rejected if I’m escalating on that laughter. If I reach out and touch a woman and I haven’t built up my escalation, I haven’t felt it out well, I haven’t calibrated it well, maybe I have an 80% chance, maybe a 50% chance depending on the girl, depending on how I feel. Depending on the guy I am, that it’s going to go well or go badly. The truth is though, if I’ve ramped up, I may be more guaranteed, but the closest I can get is 80, 90% chance. If she just laughed at something I said and I reach out and touch her, I am 100% guaranteed she’s going to accept that, she’s not going to reject it. She may not want it, she may even hate the fact I did it and freak her out, but she’s not going to reject. She’s going to … I’ll know, I will know and this is the main part of pay attention, I will know if that went well because she will pull back or she’ll keep laughing and lean forward. She might reach out and touch me soon after. Those are signs that my escalation is moving forward. Every time it doesn’t move forward, what do you do? In other words, if I touch her and maybe she keeps laughing, but maybe the laugh slows down, she doesn’t laugh as much or her next activity is to sort of pull back, comfortably, nicely, but she pulls back. She keeps talking, she’s smiling, but I went further than she went. In other words, at this moment, she was leaning forward, I touched her while she was laughing. She kept laughing, but then she leaned back. That’s How You Know You Went Too Far… That leaning back tells me my touch was too far, too forward. I went too far. Next time, I’m not going to touch, that’s one step back. Next time I’m going to lean forward, I go back two steps and move forward to where she can lean forward again. This time, however, realize she knows when she leans forward you’re going to touching her because it did happen last time. That means if she leans forward this time, she’s much more comfortable with the possibility of that escalation. If you’re escalating like this, feeling it out. I’m going to give you two more things before I close this. One, I’m going to give you the big metaphor for escalating towards a close. TRENDING: If A Younger Woman Does This With Her Body It Means She Wants You Bad (Most Older Guys Totally Miss This!) You are feeling your way in the dark, that means that you are moving forward, that’s the escalation, but you are also feeling around, that is calibration. You can’t just stand there in the dark, feeling forward, feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling. That’s the calibrator, just feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling. If you’re feeling, feeling, feeling, you’re not going to kiss her. You have to do something to kiss her, you have to move forward. But you also can’t and that’s the escalator, just start walking forward. You’re going to crash into furniture, you’re going to crash through your glass coffee table, you’re going to walk into your walls, you’re going to fall off the balcony. You want to feel your way and move forward, that’s calibration and escalation simultaneously. If You Follow These Steps Then You Will Absolutely Get The Kiss… That’s the big picture, here’s what the kiss close, what my kiss close looks like and it almost … it never fails. If you do it this way, it never fails. That moment when it kind of feels like the kiss might be ready, I do not reach in for the kiss. If I feel like the kiss is ready, I just take it. Women always prefer if you just go for it. However, the only times I ever fail at a kiss close is because I just went for it instead of using this calibration technique that always works. What I do is, the moment I think I could go for it, I say … I don’t just go for it, instead I look for something to escalate on. The way you remember to escalate on something, not to just go for the kiss is because the first phrase you say right before you do it is, “I like when you did that.” Now if you just said that, you’d have to attach it to something, right. So she needs to do something for you to escalate on. “I liked when you did that, for a second there I thought you were about to kiss me.” Now what you are saying is, this kiss is her escalation, not your escalation. What you’re doing is saying she’s the one escalating on you. That means even if it is rejected and it’s never rejected, even if it’s rejected, you didn’t get rejected. You just misunderstood her escalation. Here’s what it looks like, “I like when you did that.” Let’s say for example she steps forward. I can think of three times I did it. One, she just stepped forward, another one, she’s talking to me and she paused for a second. That’s all she did, she’s talking and I just felt like, this is the time, it’s now or never, she’s about to leave. So she was eating something. And in fact she kept putting things in her mouth. And every time she put it in her mouth, I didn’t want to say it because I wanted to try to kiss her. So this one moment, she didn’t have it in her mouth. And she said something kind of weird and looked at me and I said, “I liked the way you said that.” “What?” “For a second there I thought you were about to kiss me.” What she’ll do if it’s yes, the only thing that’s no is if she says, “What? No.” That’s what she’ll say if she doesn’t want to kiss you. Anything else, you keep moving, that’s a kiss. “I like when you did that, for a second there I thought you were about to kiss me.” What she’ll do is … and you don’t say, “For a second there I thought you were about to kiss me.” BRAND-NEW: The Fastest Way to Give Any Girl Multiple EXPLOSIVE Orgasms… And Here’s Why She’ll Escalate On You Every Single Time… It’s not an escalation on your part, she’s the one escalating. So you do it like it’s just information, “I like when you did that, for a second there I thought you were about to kiss me.” She says … That’s what she does, she kind of just defocuses her eyes because what she’s doing is imagining the kiss. She’s trying to think back to what made you think that. She’s thinking did she make it obvious or maybe she’s thinking, “That’s weird, I didn’t want to kiss him” but she’s curious. So the moment she pauses, she’s going to do like this … that’s not true, there are sometimes when they’ve gone, “Yeah.” And then she leans in or, “Okay.” She leans in. But what they’ll generally do is kind of defocus and what you say … what I say now is, “Go ahead.” I give it completely to her. “Go ahead.” And you know what? They always do, “Go ahead.” Now there’s one time actually when I said, “Go ahead.” I also pulled her. Because she … while I said it, I screwed the timing up and she was leaning back at the same it came out my mouth, so I kind of screwed it up. So I just grabbed and pulled her while I was saying it. Again, three parts, “I like when you did that, for a second there I thought you were about to kiss me.” She kind of … “Go ahead.” And she will kiss you and I’ll tell you what else, she will love, they always like that kiss close. Don’t ask me why. I think it’s because it has dominance in it, but it also has … it’s considerate. OK, so now that you know how to kiss her, unless you really just like hanging out with women, you’re going to want a way to go from the kiss to having sex with her… and today’s value bomb is an easy way to do just that: The Fastest Way To Go From Kissing To Sex… Once I learned the 3 step kiss close that I mentioned above, getting a kiss no longer became a problem. Instead a new problem arose… It was how to go from a kiss, to getting her in the bedroom. And this is a problem that A LOT of guys write in to me about. But no need to worry… Because once you get the kiss there’s an easy way to go from kissing to foreplay… But not just any kind of foreplay. I’m talking about the hot steamy kind, where her panties are dripping wet, she’s moaning in your ear, and playing with your junk over your pants. The kind that not only leads to sex, but the kind of steamy passionate sex, that’ll have her ripping your clothes off while she begs you to get inside her: Here’s a video with a hot girl showing you how to do it… Share this…

If you’re wondering how to deal with a breakup, firstly, I want you to know you are not alone. Most of us have been there at some point in our lives. A Northwestern study found that breakups cloud our sense of self, and the more serious the relationship was, the bigger your identity crises may be. If that rings true for you, know that it’s normal.  Sometimes we try and convince ourselves it’s not a big deal and was only a breakup. But because falling in love can be a scientifically addictive process, breaking up can be more serious than you first think.  “Emotionally, it can be quite a big deal, and [breakups] can be a risk factor for depression, which is no clinical condition to take lightly. There is a real analogy of the, quote, broken heart. There are some physiological rationales behind that thinking. [Breakups] can jeopardize one’s health.”—Brian Boutwel, an evolutionary psychologist at St. Louis University. Yes, it sucks, but the good news is you will be okay. You will heal. And this list is going to help you. What’s important is you don’t stay stuck in the past or blame yourself for mistakes you’ve made. That means no playing the “if only….” game. If only I’d dyed my hair blonde, or gone to the gym more, or watched more Bourne movies with him.  Don’t do this to yourself. Chances are he wasn’t perfect either. Today is the day to move forward. Forget trying to win your ex back, focus on winning yourself back. You are the most important person in your life.   Here’s how to deal with a break up in 7 steps. 1. Give yourself permission to feel & reflect Before you do anything, it’s vital you give yourself permission to feel all your feelings. There are no right or wrong emotions. Here are just some of the ones you may be cycling through: Acceptance (especially immediately after the break up occurs) Relief Shock Denial Grief Rejection Pain Betrayal Fear Embarrassment Sadness “Grief does shape us in big ways,” says Lodro Rinzler, author of Love Hurts: Buddhist Advice for the Heartbroken. These emotions are all part of the grieving process, and in order to heal, you have to go through this. Give yourself some alone time to mope around, to feel, and to cry.  Remember, don’t feel guilty for the way you feel. Stop thinking you should be over this by now, regardless of how long ago the break up was. Why do you think you should? Breaking up with someone you love is a major loss, so it would be strange if you didn’t feel that in your heart.  Your feelings are always justified, and there is never a “right way” to heal from a break up.   Listen to sad music You might reach for something to cheer yourself up, like a happy playlist of music. But did you know that listening to sad music can help normalize the grief you’re experiencing, and help you feel less alone?  Yes! According to a 2016 study, listening to sad music can be a source of comfort for some people. If you already know that mellow, tear-jerkers soothe your soul, then make yourself a break up playlist.  See a therapist If you’re really struggling and want someone to talk to, consider seeing a therapist. Talking to your friends and family is one thing, but having an unbiased, outside perspective can offer new insight. A therapist will never judge you. They’ll help you sort through your feelings, and figure out how you can move forward. If you’re feeling a lot of anger towards your ex, this can really help diffuse it. Reflect Research has also found that people who do a deep reflection on their past relationship have a stronger overall recovery. You can’t change the past, but you can learn and grow from it. So consider what the lessons are for you. What mistakes did you make? What were the positive aspects of the relationship? And what can you take with you from this experience that will make your next relationship stronger? Journaling can be a powerful tool to help you do this. Writing is a great way to feel our emotions, make sense of them, and release them. Turn your feelings into a structured story, so you can begin to make sense of them.  “‘Emotional expression’ and ‘account making’ (that is, coming up with an explanation for a traumatic event) are the two main psychological processes crucial for coping with a breakup—and this type of writing helps with both.”—Medical News Today.  2. Cut all contact with them One of the most crucial steps in dealing with a break-up is to cut all contact with your ex initially. Maybe you want to be friends with him, and in the future, you can be. But definitely not right now. The best move for you right now is to delete his number from your phone and block them on all your social media accounts. This will stop you from sending that text when you’re drunk at 3AM and missing them like hell. The text you know you’ll wish you could take back the next morning when you’re sober and thinking clearly. So do your risk management ladies. Not seeing what your ex is up to can be really difficult at first, especially since you’re so used to being a big part of their life. Maybe you still care about their health and happiness and success, and you want to see them reach their dreams. It’s a bit of a shock realizing you don’t get to be a part of that anymore. This disconnection can be tough, but it’s better this way in the long run.  No Contact Rule: 9 HUGE Benefits of Going Silent After a Breakup Stay out of their way Try and stay out of their way as much as possible. This is challenging if you both live in the same, small town. But if you know he’s going to a party, I’d recommend skipping it. And if you know he likes hanging out at a particular bar or club, steer clear of it for a while. Seeing him flirting with other women, and moving on with his life will only make you feel worse. Yes, you both need to move on, but neither of you want that shoved in your face.   Don’t have break up sex! Regardless of how lonely or tempted you are, do not under any circumstance have break up sex. When women have sex, oxytocin is released in their bodies, which is also known as the “cuddle hormone.” This makes you feel more attached to your partner, lowers your defenses, and puts you at risk of falling back in love again. Save yourself the heartache and be strong. Don’t trash talk your ex One final thing: avoid trash talking your ex to your friends and family. This might feel therapeutic to begin with, especially as your squad is likely to back you to the end. But it will only make you feel crappy. You’re better than this.    3. How to deal with a breakup: Detox Now that you’ve cut all contact with your ex, it’s time to detox.  The first step here is to deal with any baggage from the relationship, physically and emotionally. When we don’t do this, we tend to cart our issues around with us and bring that into our future relationships. Essentially, we set ourselves up for failure, and this can easily be avoided. Were there a lot of arguments in the relationship? If so, what was the root cause of them? Can you see any patterns there? Who was the one picking the fight, and what usually led to the explosion? It’s vital you take time here to reflect and recharge. Make peace with the past so that you can move forward.  Make sure you’re not doing anything to sabotage your healing right now. That includes heavy drinking, taking drugs, or excessive eating.  Clear out bad memories Transform your home into your own personal love detox center. Throw out anything you’ve accumulated from the relationship. That includes that shoebox in the back of your closet—you know the one I’m talking about. Get rid of the bad memories and reminders of what you’ve lost, because this is how we create space for new memories.  Rearrange the furniture in your house, and breathe fresh energy into your space. Take some inspiration from the ancient Chinese practice of feng shui to get good energy flowing again in your life. Maybe take this time to have a massive clear out, and get rid of anything you no longer feel aligned with. Redecorate if you feel called to. Blast an empowering playlist out while you do this, and give yourself permission to choreograph a matching dance routine. Because, why the hell not? This is the end of an old chapter in your life, and the beginning of a beautiful new one. Embrace it. 4. Take care of yourself Figuring out how to deal with a break up is really about learning how to take care of yourself during this emotional period of adjustment.  Even when you feel like sleeping in and hiding out from the world with a selection box, dig deep to find the motivation to get up and take care of yourself. You need self-care now more than ever. That means checking off the basics. Get up at a reasonable hour, shower, get dressed into clothes that make you feel good, do your hair and makeup. Do whatever you need to do to feel put together.   “Prioritizing your hygiene and taking pride in how you look can often make you feel better inside.”—Kristie Norwood, licensed clinical psychologist. Eat well Try and eat a balanced diet. Don’t diet or binge as a way to comfort or punish yourself. You don’t need cruelty right now, you need more kindness and compassion. Opt for nourishing foods that make you feel good, and energize you. Stick to a plant-based diet as much as possible, and try out a vitamin supplement if you want an extra boost. But don’t worry about indulging in some pizza or ice cream now and then. Listen to your body, and trust it. Move your body Keep your body moving, but don’t over-exert yourself either. Exercise releases endorphins, which can lower your stress levels, improve cognitive functioning, and boost your mood. Plus, it’ll be a welcome distraction from your thoughts and worries right now. Focus on moving your body in ways that feel good to you. A power class like kickboxing might help build your confidence back up, and help you feel physically and mentally stronger. Practice self-care Try and practice self-care every day. It can take as little or as long as you like. Here are some ideas: Enjoy a relaxing bath Practice positive self-talk Meditate Play Let go of a toxic habit Unplug Get a massage Journal Tidy your house Organize something Have coffee with a friend Watch an inspiring movie Treat yourself to a new sex toy Getting enough good sleep is important right now for your health and happiness. Try and establish a good sleep routine if you don’t already have one. It’s little things like this that will help you feel like you’ve got your shit together.  5. Focus on something else When you’re in a relationship for a long time, it’s easy to lose a sense of who you are without your partner. Now is the perfect time to reclaim yourself.  What hobbies have you always enjoyed? What’s something you haven’t done in a while but would like to? Think about the parts of yourself you may have pushed aside or let slip over the past few months or years.  Create space to do things you love. And even if you don’t feel like it, push yourself to get out there and do them. This is how to start enjoying yourself and your life again.  Go to a club with your friends, go to a local class or join a club, meet new people, head to a comedy club or an art gallery. Focus on saying yes to invitations and opportunities, even if you want to stay home alone with your thoughts.  Take back control of your life Break-ups have a way of making you feel like your life is out of control. There’s no better way to combat this than by focusing on another area of your life and kicking ass in it. That might be your career, your friendships, your hobbies, or your side hustle. This will help you feel more confident and build your self-worth back up.  Another brilliant way to deal with a break up is to plan something fun to look forward to. Maybe a gig, a music festival, dinner at a fancy restaurant, or even a vacation with your girlfriends. This is how we help ourselves move forward and heal.  Remember, every loss we experience always has a purpose. Perhaps it will help you explore and re-discover yourself on a deeper level than you ever have before.   6. Reconnect with friends Wondering how to deal with a breakup? Go home. Return to that place where you are loved and supported by people you know and trust. “Home is the place where when you go there, they have to take you in.”—Robert Frost. Chances are, you have someone you can go to who makes you feel like you’re home. Whether it’s your sister, your best friends, or your mum. Maybe you’re blessed enough to have many homes you can go to. There’s no place that feels safer than home does. But be mindful about who you’re choosing to spend time with. What you need now is the energy of positive, uplifting people. Not Debbie downers. Seek out the people who look on the bright side, can make you laugh a lot, and make everything that’s heavy feel lighter. Date your girlfriends Now that you’re single, why not date your girlfriends? Plan brunch dates, spa sessions, nights out, weekends away. Pour your time and energy back into the relationships you may have let slide a little while you were in a relationship.  Even if you don’t feel like having company or being social right now, avoid the desire to isolate yourself. Experts have found that staying social decreases depression and helps you live longer. There are also numerous studies that have found social support in the wake of adversity or trauma leads to better mental and physical health. So don’t be afraid to lean on your people right now. Stay connected. Share how you’re feeling. Allow the people who love you to walk through this by your side.  7. Start dating again (when you’re ready) When it comes to how to deal with a breakup, the best thing is to avoid dating again until you feel ready. Great advice Adam, but how do you know when you’re ready? Great question! You’re ready to date again when your previous relationship no longer feels heavy to you.  “You have more mental space to think of other things outside of this one person. [You can] create new memories, develop new hobbies, and focus on yourself. This is when you can begin to know you are healed and can begin dating again in a healthy way.”—Dr. Tricia Wolanin, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist. Don’t date to make yourself feel better That means avoid hopping on dating apps when you get an urge to unless you’re actually ready. Some people say the best way to get over someone is to move on to someone else. But generally, this is bad advice and does not work! Perhaps in the moment when you’re hooking up, you may not be thinking about your ex. But eventually, you will be. This will only leave you feeling worse than you did before. Plus, it’s not fair on the other person. They deserve more, and so do you. You need to take this time to restore your trust and faith in relationships and open yourself to being vulnerable with someone again. And the best way to do that is to preserve your energy and take care of yourself. So when you’re ready to date again, you’ll feel good about yourself, you’ll know what you want, and you’ll recognize it when you see it.    When you are ready to start dating again, be sure to take things slow. There’s no rush. Be gentle and patient with yourself. You’ve just come out of a long-term relationship, and that’s a big life event.   And that is how to deal with a break up I’m not gonna lie to you. Breakups can be really tough, regardless of who broke up with who. But follow these 7 steps and you’ll be well on your way to moving forward and healing from the past.  Trust me when I say you’re going to be okay. You are stronger than this. Always remember that everything we go through in life is teaching us something, and shaping us into the highest version of ourselves we can be. And that’s a beautiful thing.  Have you tried some of the steps above to deal with a break up in the past? Or do you have some extra tips on how to deal with a break up that aren’t on this list? Share them all with me in the comments below! Also, if you’d like to join me on a brand new webinar to learn “why men flake, avoid commitment and consistently ghost until they meet a woman who’s following these 7 simple steps”, then register here (it’s 100% free). Share the Love

Looking for some of the best Tinder Bios for guys? If you’re struggling to figure out how to set yourself apart from the competition on Tinder™, I’ve got you covered. I’ve heavily researched this controversial dating app and hand-selected over 40 of the best bio examples for you.  Why is this important? Because dating apps have taken over as the medium of choice for single people to meet each other.  While the bar scene used to be revered as the top place for singles to meet, things have taken a downturn in recent years. Online dating was once snubbed as desperate and creepy.  However, apps like Tinder, Bumble, Facebook Dating and Hinge have brought online dating into the mainstream. And now, practically everyone is meeting people they otherwise wouldn’t have met because they’re using dating sites and apps. But when it comes to Tinder bios for guys, it can be hard to stand out. There are also several online dating faux pas that will trigger women to super swipe left on you. In fact, you may not be aware of many of them because they’re counter-intuitive.  Luckily, in this article, I’ve also got some basic Tinder tips to help you score more dates. And after you’ve chosen your favorite bio example below, don’t forget to check out my articles on the best Tinder opening lines for guys and my best Facebook Dating Profiles. Both of which will help you get more matches and more responses. Best Tinder Bio Formats for Guys Before we jump into real-life bio examples, let’s first outline six bio formats that are proven to rack up matches.  The purpose of a written bio is to humanize yourself. In an app that reduces each user into a set of cards in a deck of eligible singles, appearing as anything other than superficial is a tough ask.  Using one of the following bio formats will display your personality and make you stand out against a backdrop of countless other bios.  Format 1: The Most Spontaneous Thing I’ve Ever Done Tinder is a game. And in this game, the coolest guys win.   With the written portion of the bio, you’re given a space to wax poetic about your own accomplishments. Flex out those peacock feathers and show her why you’re better than the profile on either side of you. One of the ways to catch her attention is to talk in superlatives. In this case, you’ll boast about the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done.  To get the most out of this bio format, sift through your catalog of experiences in order to find one that would impress any Tinderella. Here are a few examples to tickle your inspiration.  Examples Dave “The most spontaneous thing I’ve ever done was take an impromptu vacation to Paris to watch a PSG soccer match. I flew back to the states just hours after the match ended in order to get watch an MLS game. Two soccer matches, two days, two different countries. After that day my bucket list got a little bit shorter.“ Sam “The most spontaneous thing I ever did was move to San Francisco on a dare. Seven years later, I’m still here.” Dylan “The most spontaneous thing I ever did was cook mole negro for my family on Christmas. Some background, before cooking the mole I had mastered cooking delicacies such as toast and scrambled eggs. With scrambled eggs, toast, and now mole under my belt I’m now a bonafide chef.” Whichever spontaneous act you choose to share just make sure it’s true. Fudging is acceptable but make sure that the meat of the spontaneous act is historically accurate.  Format 2: Two Short Descriptive Sentences + Emojis Penning a written dating app bio from scratch should be treated like poetry.  Every single word short has a purpose. On average women spend between 3-6 seconds looking at a profile before swiping. This means she’s not going to spend an entire minute reading the 12-line profile you just wrote. When in doubt, keep her wanting more by keeping your profile pithy.  Examples Juan “Remember that guy that made eyes with you at the Vampire Weekend show, but before he could talk to you, you dipped out with your friends? That guy was me. Hi, my name’s Dave. (emojis here)” Kaloy “Fluent in Espanol, Italiano, English, and JS.” (emojis here) My ideal first date would include speaking about passerbys in other languages and pretending like we’re royals. Pinkies in the air! (emojis here)” Matt “Recent accomplishments include: Running my first 10k, crowd surfing, and learning the piano.  Recent failures include: Fainting after my first 10k, losing my wallet while crowd surfing, and not being able to get chopsticks out of my head. (emojis here)“ Format 3: Going Three Levels Deep Let’s not forget that Tinder reduces you to a playing card. To make her think of you as anything other than just another card in a deck of singles you’ll have to dig deep.  Going three levels deep means conveying more than the bare minimum. It means being able to paint a picture of who you are in just a few strokes. Instead of saying that you love pizza, tell her that you make your own, that you despise deep-dish, and that you dream about spontaneously skipping off to Italy to dine on Naples’s finest. To help you visualize what a successful three-level profile looks like, here are a few examples.  Examples Leo “My perfect Sunday includes morning tennis, Scrabble, playing a bingo in Scrabble, winning Scrabble, and then night tennis. O yeah, and milk duds, lots of milk duds.” Kobe “I love tacos… but allow me to elaborate.  While studying abroad in Mexico City I had my first authentic pastor taco. But when I came back to the states I could only find hard shell tacos (i.e. not tacos). So I bought myself a spit, marinated some pastor meat, and made tacos a Sunday fixture at my place.  I eat my tacos con todo. And yes, that includes pineapple, I’m not a heathen.” Doug “One time I took a hike through Muir Woods. That one time turned into two times, two turned into three, and now I’ve hiked Muir Woods over three hundred times. Now I curate hiking expeditions. Hmm, I wonder how that happened.” Format 4: Use Humor Or Self Deprecation With so many guys all too willing to self-aggrandize, some self-deprecating behavior is refreshing. And as for constructing a humorous profile, it should go without saying that a little bit of wit and charm should be used in every profile.  Examples Chuck “Listen, I don’t want to brag, but I once picked a movie to watch on Netflix in under 30 minutes.”  Wayne “Can someone tell me how to lower the difficulty settings on Tinder?” Alex “My biggest fear is that men’s rights advocates will convince Amazon to make a male version of Alexa. No I won’t play Don’t Stop Believing!” Format 5: The Biggest Risk I’ve Taken No one is swiping through Tinder hoping that they’ll find a Netflix addict so that they can waste away their lives binging all the latest series. She wants someone that will improve her, surprise her, and that will bring her out of her comfort zone.  Convince her that you’re her guy by writing about all the craziest risks you’ve ever taken.  Examples Marcus “I’m allergic to shrimp.  But once when I was nine I knowingly ate an entire plate of grilled shrimp. I’d like to say that I’ve put my daring ways behind me, but I still eat shrimp every chance I get. Eating shrimp is in itself a pricey habit, but just imagine how much more expensive it is if every time you eat shrimp you also need a side order of epinephrine. Seafood anyone? I’ll bring the EpiPen.” David “The biggest risk I’ve even taken was telling my parents that I was an atheist. On the one hand, I got to stop going to church, on the other, there’s a .000001% chance that I’ll burn in hell for eternity. A fair tradeoff. “ Hector “The biggest risk I’ve ever taken was moving to Mexico after college. Everyone thought I was going to be kidnapped by narcos. Instead, I just became fluent in Spanish, learned how to make chilaquiles, and became an expert salsa dancer. Anyone up for hitting the dance-floor?” Format 6: I’m Regular At…/Change of Direction “What makes jokes so funny is their change of direction. What makes a successful Tinder profile is your ability to make her laugh. When in doubt, always use humor to attract more matches.”  Examples Rick “So my girlfriend said she wanted to break up with me because I had no sense of direction. So I packed my things and right.” Sai “You ever go on a date that completely changed your life? Me neither. Up for perpetuating your romantic disappointment?” David “I’m regular at marathon racing against horses. I usually only beat a few. And yes this is a real thing, haven’t you ever listened to Radiolab?” Best Tinder Bios for Guys (Photo Examples) Alright, now the we’ve mastered some of the best tinder bio formats, let’s get into some actual examples I found on Tinder that spoke to me. Just make sure you read my explanations and customize these examples on your bio that actually speak about YOU. #1: Don’t Make Women Feel Sad for You Your life should not sound depressing in your profile. If you end up saying something like, “My life feels empty without someone special in it,” or “In a dark place — can you shine a light on me?” women will swipe left on your profile 100% of the time. When you look at the best Tinder bios out there, you’ll notice that these guys exude positivity and seem to have a glass-half-full perspective when it comes to dating. By saying something like, “Got my life together just looking for more,” you’re showing that you want a relationship but you’re not wallowing in sadness over singledom. Bio #2: Consider Why You Are Choosing to Advertise Certain Traits This is one of the best Tinder bios because it’s guaranteed to make a woman chuckle and also will leave her more inclined to swipe right. Women love humor and if you can use it correctly, being comedic is always a win. Bio #3: Don’t Be Basic The guy in this screenshot is succinctly noting three things that are awesome when they stand alone (a French engineer, a personal development mentor, and a fitness enthusiast). But these three things are even more compelling when placed side by side. Sure, a fitness enthusiast is great, but wouldn’t you rather hang out with a fitness enthusiast who can mentor you on personal matters and speak French while designing or building things? Très bien, indeed! When it comes to creating the best Tinder bios, you want to make sure that you stand out and avoid being basic. The following statements are extremely overused and boring when it comes to Tinder bios for guys: -“I’m chill” -“I love Netflix” -“Drama-free” -“I love to cook” -“I love sports” -[Insert statement about your height here] That’s great that you don’t like drama and DO love sports, but how does this set you apart from the competition? It doesn’t. Instead of focusing on what everyone generally likes, focus on what specifically makes you unique. Bio #4: Make it Easy for Her to Connect With You You can do this by telling her specific things about yourself. Instead of using a general statement like, “I love Netflix,” tell her what your favorite show or movie is and why. When you offer specifics about yourself that are also accessible (i.e., things people can relate to and use in conversation), it helps you connect with a woman who shares your interests early on. Best Tinder Bios #5: Avoid Coming Across as Insecure The old adage about nice guys finishing last is false. The truth is that nice guys finish first, but self-proclaimed “nice guys” who are overly agreeable or insecure finish last. This is because women are attracted to confidence. If you want to have one of the best Tinder bios for men, don’t come off as insecure or you’re guaranteed to get left swiped more often than not. You’re going to seem insecure if your Tinder bio includes things like: -Goofy comments that attempt to be funny but totally miss the mark. For example, saying something like, “Aspiring gynecologist – hi ladies!” is terrible and YES, people actually write things like that on Tinder. -Comments that make you sound desperate. Don’t put something like, “I’m down for anything.” Are you, though? What if she wants to go jogging across a bunch of bear traps – would you be down for that? Another desperate comment you shouldn’t use is something like, “I love everyone.” Do you love Hitler? No, of course you don’t, but when you say things like that you seem overly eager to please as well as insincere. This Tinder bio right here is great because it borders on self-deprecating (“I can’t dance”) but then throws in a positive (“I have a puppy”), and it also shows a sense of humor. Bio #6: Don’t State the Obvious For example, don’t be a basic dude who says “6’3 if it matters.” Clearly it matters to you — otherwise, you wouldn’t have put it in your profile. Don’t make an obvious statement and then point it out. It’s annoying.  The below is an example of a great Tinder bio because it’s creative and charming all at the same time. Bio #7: Don’t Be Vague One thing that can be the difference between the best Tinder bios for guys and worst Tinder bios for guys is vagueness. When you say something vague like “I love sports,” you’re not doing yourself any favors. Instead, talk about what your favorite sports team is and why. Don’t say “I like music” — tell me who your favorite musician is and give me some insight into what led you to become a fan of this musician. Do you like to cook or do you consider yourself a foodie? Tell me about your favorite meal or your go-to dish that you make for special occasions. Give me something tangible to connect with that also tells me who exactly you are. Bio #8: Don’t Use Tons of Emojis Don’t create a Tinder bio that is basically an incoherent stream of emojis. It’s overwhelming and obnoxious. You’ll notice that many of the best Tinder bios for guys that are included in this post have emojis, but the emojis are peppered throughout the bio in a way that enhances their bio — it doesn’t dominate it.  See below. Feel free to throw in a dancing lady emoji if you like dancing or a few emojis to show that you like adventuring to different cities. But don’t throw me eight emojis of a dog, a donut, a sunflower, a smiley face, a dog, a cat, another dog and a bag of money just to let me know that you went skydiving ONE TIME. Bio #9: Have Fun With Height For height, list yourself as the tallest possible height. Don’t make a comment about it, just put the maximum height OR the shortest possible height (so you’re basically choosing between being like 8 feet tall or 3 feet tall, or something like that). This will serve as a great conversation starter. If a woman asks about it, make a joke and show that you are poking fun at this superficial stat. This will either help you make a connection or allow you to weed out extremely superficial people in case the woman demands to know your actual height and/or makes it clear being above or below a certain height is a deal breaker for her.   If you choose to list your real height, here’s a good Tinder bios for guys example you can emulate: Best Tinder Bios for Guys #10: Don’t Add Unnecessary Information to Your Tinder Bio Are you a blonde? Great, I should be able to tell that from your photos — you don’t need to tell me. Do you lift weights at the gym? I can see that bulging bicep in your photos — you don’t need to add it to your Tinder bio. Avoid adding unnecessary information in your bios and focus on succinct lines that will capture interest. Below is a great Tinder bio example for guys because it’s all very unique to the individual. Bio #11: Be Subtle With Your Sarcasm Sarcasm can be a great way to show your humor when used correctly, but there are times when you may not want to use sarcasm at all. In truth, sarcasm is often masked hostility and — when you come across as hostile — it’s a major turn-off. Don’t be sarcastic in ways that are mean or bash online dating (i.e., “I’m SURE you’re not just judging me by my photos right now…lol yeah right”). Finally, when it comes to being sarcastic, don’t say, “I’m sarcastic.” Show her instead of telling her. The same rule applies to someone who says, “I’m funny.” Show me you’re funny, don’t just expect me to assume that you actually are. Below is an example of a Tinder bio that made me laugh. Bio #12: Be Clever Clever tinder bios usually make for the best tinder funbios. Here’s an example: This man has the last name of “Long” and pokes fun at himself by pointing it out and also follow it up by referencing that he’s a “mixed breed” like his dog. So now you have a guy who is being clever and he has an adorable pup to boot. He nailed it! Bio #13: Don’t Tell Me About Other People on Tinder That You Think Are Dumb You don’t have to be dumb because they’re being dumb. There are so many terrible Tinder bios that say things like: -Don’t even know why I try. Girls on this thing are so superficial.” -Message only if you’re not gonna be a b**ch!!” -Does anybody here actually respond? Over this.” Don’t be that guy! No one likes negativity and if that’s the first impression you’re giving off, it’s pretty much a guarantee that women will swipe left on you. Take a look at this super positive and clever tinder bio: Bio #14: Don’t Post Bathroom Selfies Stop. Just STOP. Why do guys keep doing this? Whether you have a rock hard body like David Beckham or a dad bod worthy of Seth Rogen, don’t show it off under the harsh fluorescent lighting of your bathroom or the locker room at your gym. What’s even worse is that these selfies are normally paired with a vacant stare. In that case, you look like a serial killer and I am immediately becoming less aware of your abs and more fixated on the fact that a date with you could play out like an episode of Law & Order: SVU. In short, never post a bathroom selfie OR a shirtless pic unless it is clearly part of a shirtless activity, like swimming. Best Tinder Bios #15: Don’t Look Unemployed I know that man buns and beards are all the rage, but that doesn’t mean you have to throw away your comb or forego doing laundry. Don’t look unemployed and definitely don’t state that you’re unemployed on your Tinder bio. If you are dealing with unemployment, don’t feel bad, it’s a place tons of people find themselves in at different points throughout their lives. But you need to make sure you fix your finances before searching for love. With that said, when you are employed and able to take a woman to dinner (wait until date #3 I may add), try emulating this hilarious tinder bios for guys: Bio #16: SMILE!!! Blank stares are not sexy. Smiling is sexy! Make sure that you’re Tinder pics. This sends ladies positive vibes and shows that you know how to have a good time. The below bio example was written by guy who was smiling from ear to ear- super sexy. Bio #17: Don’t Look Homeless Just like you shouldn’t look unemployed, you also shouldn’t look homeless. Don’t take any sort of ruggedness or Boho chic to an extreme that would make a woman question whether you are able to pay rent or have access to running water. The below is a great bio example. If only the guy didn’t look homeless. Bio #18: Don’t Use Jokes If You’re Not Funny I know I’ve been pushing the advantage of cleverness and humor, but if comedy isn’t your strong suit, don’t attempt to make jokes that fall flat. There are many compelling Tinder profiles that are straightforward and compelling without using a ton of jokes. You can easily make your profile into one of the best Tinder bios by pointing out your unique qualities and passions in a succinct and compelling way, like this: To work on your sense of humor or to test out some funny Tinder first messages, take a comedy or improv class. You can also use quotes from funny movies and stand-up comedy specials.  Bio #19: Don’t Have a Ferret in Your Photo I didn’t know I’d actually have to put into writing that you’re not supposed to do this when posting pics to your Tinder account, but here we are. I’m not saying that I hate ferrets or that you should hide your love for your pet ferret. It’s just that — when people aren’t familiar with these creatures — seeing a ferret in a photo can be equal parts confusing and terrifying. From certain angles, ferrets can resemble rats, and some women are going to be thinking, “Why is he holding a rat? Why TF is he holding a RAT?!” You think you’ve just done the most adorable photo op ever but all she sees is this. If you must have a ferret in your photo, at least do the smart thing and make sure the ferret is flanked by kittens or something so she can ease into accepting that you have a furry snake as a pet. Bio #20: Never Go Negative The best Tinder bios for guys are the ones that shine are those that exude positivity. Don’t ever be negative in your bio. The below bio example shows a strong outward based positivity – this guy loves to be active and enjoys putting himself out there, two things women love. Bio #21: DON’T LOOK LIKE A KILLER Nothing says “LEFT SWIPE” like looking as if you’re going to murder someone. You might look like a killer in your photos if you: -Don’t smile in your photos -Have intense facial expressions -Have neck tattoos -Throw up gang signs -Have “scary muscles” that could snap a babe’s neck -Take photos of yourself in the hood -Use only photos of yourself and no one else. Avoid these things at all costs! For more on this topic check out my other post on the best tinder pics for guys.  Bio #22: Stop Advertising Your Flaws Are you hungover from last weekend? Don’t advertise that — or any flaws — on your tinder bio. If you use photos where you’re holding alcohol and/or drunk, you’re telling women that you’re an alcoholic. If you’re smoking cigarettes or weed in your photos, that doesn’t make you seem like much of a prize either. Don’t advertise what’s not valuable about yourself. If it’s a threat — not an asset — exclude it. Here’s a bio example to emulate (in your words with your passions, obviously): Bio #23: Make Sure You Look Like the Same Person in All of Your Photos You don’t want her to get pre-date jitters wondering which version of you she’s going to get on a first date. Make sure that all of your photos look like you and that they aren’t simply a collection of all the different looks you’ve tried over the years. This is especially true in the facial hair department. Don’t use one photo with a beard and another without a beard — it’s too confusing. She doesn’t know which guy she’s going to get if she agrees to a date with you. Finally, don’t use a photo from 10 years ago when you were a bodybuilder and another photo from the present day, where there’s a 100-pound difference. It’s. Just. Confusing.  Moving on, here’s one of the funniest Tinder bio examples I found during my research: Best Tinder Bio for Guys #24: Don’t Put Emojis Over the Faces of Other People in Your Photo I don’t know when or why this became a thing on Tinder, but don’t do it. Putting emojis over the faces of other people in your photo is just creepy. Maybe you’re worried that your friends don’t want their picture on Tinder or one of the people in the photo is an ex. Whatever the reason, use pictures of people that you know won’t mind making an appearance on your dating app and NEVER post a photo of you with an ex. It’s just tacky. With that said, this Antonio guy had an awesome approach on his bio: Bio #25: Don’t Say “I Don’t …” Focus on the things you do, not the things that you don’t do. When you start a Tinder bio with “I don’t” it’s negative and unnecessary. Think about what makes you special as opposed to things you may be lacking. Here’s a simple winner that made me crave more: Best Tinder Bios for Guys #26: Larry David and a 90’s R&B Singer This one is just strange enough to work. So you are going to remind me of Larry David and a 90s R&B singer…and you watch old Soul Train videos as a hobby? Feel free to indulge in your quirky side when it comes to crafting your bio. Remember, you want to capture a woman’s attention fast so that she swipes right. Bio #27: Who Doesn’t Love Pizza This one keeps it short and sweet, while also mentioning specific interests. I like that he listed two different musical tastes because it’s something that he can use to build rapport. And of course, pizza is something that pretty much everyone can bond over. Bio #28: Cute Animals + Humor = Amazing Tinder Bio You really can’t go wrong when it comes to a bio that mentions you love your pet. And in this case, this guy is demonstrating that he has a lot of patience and compassion, being that he clearly rescued two animals in need. But he’s making the most of his limited space (and limited attention spans) by also including a line to make girls laugh. Bio #29 Rollercoaster, Anyone? This bio is well and good overall, but what really makes this guy stand out is that he rides and designs roller coasters. That’s just not something you expect to hear everyday and also — it’s super cool! What is his favorite roller coaster he’s designed? Did he help design that one that made you sick last summer? How many loops does he consider being the optimal amount of loops! I have so many questions — and that’s the point. You don’t want to give everything away when you’re writing a Tinder bio. In fact, you don’t even want to give everything away when you’re messaging a girl on Tinder. Women like a little bit of mystery, so save deeper conversations and personal info for when you two are on an actual date. Best Tinder Profile for Guys #30: A Lot of Humor Packed Into One Tinder Bios FYI, the “side chick” this guy is talking about is a cardboard cutout from what looks like a Comicon convention. There’s nothing wrong with being a nerd, especially when you embrace it like this guy. I like that he peppered in some self-deprecating humor at the end as well. Women don’t want a guy who takes himself too seriously so don’t forget to laugh at yourself once in a while and go with the flow. Bio #31: Possibly the Best Tinder Bio Ever Created Honestly, you have my permission to copy and paste this bio because it’s one of the best out there. This guy crammed a ton of humor into a bio, along with pizza and tacos — pizza AND tacos!! This creatively includes humor and also holds the woman’s attention in a way that can be difficult on dating apps like Tinder. Bio #32: Kombucha and Pickles Again, if you have an interesting hobby, be sure to list it. Whether or not a girl would have making kombucha and pickles in common with you, it’s something that’s bound to catch her eye. Some guys shy away from sharing things they think are quirky and choose to list something generic instead. But remember, you want someone who can have shared interests with you, so it’s good to be up front right away. Doing this will increase your chances of matching with women you can have solid, real-life connections with. Bio #33: Poking Fun at Superficial Height Preferences Everything in this guy’s profile is pretty solid. He talks about specific interests and clarifies that the child he’s holding in one picture is his niece — this lets women know he doesn’t have kids but also shows that he’s good with kids. I really like that he ended with a lighthearted jab at height preferences on dating apps. A lot of guys who aren’t super tall get self-conscious when it comes to dating apps. But if you can take it with humor and flip the script, it really works in your favor. Bio #34: “I Have More Pictures of Dogs” You had me at dogs! This guy had an adorable picture of himself with a pooch and — like I said — cute animals make everything better. The fact that women know there are more cute animal pics where that came from is enough to make them swipe right.  Also, like pizza, people are pretty unanimous in their love of tacos. Mentioning pizza and tacos at any time tends to be a good thing. In fact, if you are able to get someone to snap a shot of you making a pizza and taco platter while also holding a puppy, you’re golden. Best Tinder Bios for Guys #35: Short, Sweet, and Self-Deprecating This doesn’t delve too deeply into this guy’s interests, but it will capture attention quickly. Again, showing that you don’t take yourself too seriously is an attractive quality. In this case, the guy is clearly being funny and not being negative, which is a common problem a lot of guys run into when using dating apps. Make sure you don’t allow any frustration you have over online dating to bleed into your profile. Saying things like “sick of this app,” “on here not expecting anything,” or “is anyone here actually looking for a nice guy??” will just turn girls off and limit your success. Bio #36: Nick Cage FTW I officially need to find and download this Nicholas Cage app immediately! Aside from that intriguing piece of info, this guy starts off by showing he has a good sense of humor, which is always a good thing when it comes to creating a great Tinder bio. Bio #37: Three Truths and a Lie This is a great bio and could also make for a great first message after matching with someone on Tinder. Why? This piques interest and would require more than a “yes” or “no” answer as a response.  When you ask an open-ended question or offer up a fun game like this one, you’re much more likely to develop a connection with someone and keep the conversation flowing, which can make it easier for you to get a girl to go out with you. Bio #38: More Games This one can be a little risky, because he kind of veers off into questionable territory with the whole looking for someone “fit” and “Think you’re badass enough to steal my heart?” Then again, he also gets super specific and for a girl who really aligns with his interests, this could work. If you’re unsure, just stick with the first paragraph in this one. People on Tinder tend to post the same types of things over and over again, so a lighthearted jab is fine as long as it isn’t mean or negative. Bio #39: Slightly Vulnerable This guy shares tons of awesome information about his career and also interests. I really like that he allowed himself to show some vulnerability without giving too much away. He runs a non-profit on the side in memory of his mother, which is extremely honorable and also pretty personal. It shows a lot of confidence and strength that this guy felt able to share that on a dating app. Vulnerability is really important when it comes to dating because it allows you to build a deeper connection with someone, which will help you find a long-term relationship. That doesn’t mean that you have to give everything away on a first date. But asking questions and being open to topics that aren’t merely skin-deep can help you increase your confidence and success in the dating world, as well as other areas of your life. Best Tinder Bios for Guys #40: Turn Your Tinder Bios into a Funny Advertisement I love this guy’s style. He’s showcasing a good sense of humor and creativity by turning his bio into a corny (albeit, effective) advertisement. There are other bios I’ve seen in the past that follow this kind of format, but with fake quotes from friends and family that read like quotes from movie critics. For example. Let’s say your name is Nick. Your bio could read something like this: “Five out of five stars when it comes to cleaning dishes.” — Nick’s old roommate “I don’t know why he doesn’t have a girlfriend yet. HAVE YOU SEEN THAT FACE??” — Nick’s friend “Awesome guy from the day he was born.” — Nick’s mom “Please stop asking to quote me on your Tinder profile.” — Nick’s acquaintance Bio #41: Be Topical  “I just want a woman who washes her hands for 20 seconds and knows how to properly microwave popcorn. (Hint: Never hit the microwave button.)” We’ve all been emotionally drowning in COVID-19 talk for the past year. Avoid talking about COVID and how apocalyptic it is unless you’re making it known that you’re aware of how it spreads and take proactive steps in combating it. This will signal to other singles that you don’t make risky social decisions and are probably safer to date than other men. However, only writing about COVID doesn’t show how multi-faceted you are. This person ironically adds a little humor to their Tinder bio by talking about the gravity of COVID while in the same sentence making it known that he also wants a woman that knows how to handle her popcorn.  Bio #42: New Year, New Boo “My New Year’s Resolutions:  Run a marathon Learn how to play The Piano Man on piano (but first learn the piano) Stop using the poop emoji out of context  Date more like-minded women from Tinder” Not all guys feel like they can stack up against the competition. You might be one of them. So instead of talking about who you were or who you are, talk about who you want to be. Look, the chances are you’re better than oodles of guys on Tinder, but maybe you feel as though you can’t convey that. That’s fine. Instead of talking about the past, tell her who you want to become.  Bio #43: Keywords Are Your Cinderella Slipper “Just your average 6’2” man trying to go rock climbing for a first date, bowling on a second, and make love on the third.  What are my hobbies you ask? Painting with a craft brew in hand, making fun of Republicans, celebrating 4/20 every other weekend, running multiple 5ks a week and basically personifying Chris Traeger.” Artfully use keywords throughout your bio. Tinder works by trying to place your profile in front of user’s that it believes you’re compatible with. It does so in part by using keywords. Writing specific likes and dislikes on your profile is likely to get you paired up with users that used those same keywords on their profiles. Just be sure not to list out 30 things that you’re into. Keyword vomiting may put your profile in front of women you’re compatible with, but it shows zero signs of personality. Humanize yourself by penning a profile in your own voice while utilizing keywords.  Bio #44: Let’s Talk About Our Future “Just a list of first date ideas:  -Dress in matching koala onesies, go to the zoo, jump in the koala exhibit and become king and queen of the koalas -Go to a karaoke bar and only sing K-pop songs -Apply for Canadian citizenship -Finding the meaning of life, then sell it on eBay for a million dollars -Get coffee” 50% of Tinder profiles are blank. Another 25% are creepy. 20 more percent talk about their love for tacos and The Office. Then there’s that paltry 5% of profiles that are actually good, that women actually read from beginning to end and elicit a genuine laugh. Making a woman literally laugh out loud is a guaranteed swipe right.  Bio #45: Keep The Good Times Rollin’ “Some of my friends say I’m too optimistic. I say they don’t understand that at any moment something amazing can happen… that’s why I always carry confetti around in my pocket.  It’s emergency confetti.” This profile works because it’s so freakin’ adorably optimistic. Sure it’s a bit weird, but it touches on a great point. First impressions should always be positive. Considering she’s got so little to go off of, why start out by pitching yourself in a negative light? No one wants to date a sad guy with low self-esteem. Turn up the charm and positivity by presenting yourself as the guy that everyone wants to be around.  Bonus: A Tinder Bio You Should Never Replicate We’ve gone through a lot of awesome Tinder bios, but I couldn’t end this article without directing you to the type of bio you should avoid AT ALL COSTS. Granted, this will make a woman stop and think — but for all the wrong reasons. What does this even mean? Does this guy think the Mona Lisa looks like a woman who has a hand up her skirt? Why is she so calm about it, then? I just can’t. If you craft a bio that is anything like this, a woman will do the following things: -Stop -Read the bio -Squint in confusion -Reread the bio -Reread the bio AGAIN -Swipe LEFT Best Tinder Bios for Guys: Conclusion Are you struggling to get more matches and swipe rights even when you upgraded to Tinder Plus? Is dating confusing to you? Not reaching your long term dating goals? I can help!  Here at emlovz we offer a full suite of dating services from private coaching to group based coaching — and even a full service matchmaking program. There’s no more excuses to not reaching your dating goals this year! Ready to get started? Then head over to my calendar and book a new client 1-on-1 Zoom session with me or one of my other coaches today. During this intro session, we will discuss your dating roadblocks and create an action plan to help you crush your goals and get you on the road to finding the woman of your dreams! 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If you want to effect a lasting impression on your man, bring all of his senses to life. Today, let’s talk about sight. It’s been proven that when the senses are engaged in an experience, the memory of the experience is stronger. Weather you are newly dating, in a long term relationship or married, paying attention to the sensual aspects of your environment will affect your relationship in a positive way. Let’s explore… Men are awed by women who naturally and easily express their God given sensuality. They are drawn in and mysteriously spell cast by our femininity. Do you make an effort to bring your best self forward in appearance and attitude or have you become complacent from your routine? Here are some ideas to consider with regards to the sense of “sight”. Clothes Men are visual and while you certainly don’t have to look perfect at all times making sure your appearance is put together in a way men respond to is a big key to how attractive he sees you.. Accentuate your best features. If you have great legs, wear skirts more often.  If your arms are toned and sexy, show them off. Your clothes should be form fitting showing your womanly curves, but not with everything hanging out. Men prefer a hint of sexuality so they can imagine the rest. Brighter colors are more attractive and stimulating to men than neutral or black. Hair and Make-up It makes men feel cared for and special when their woman cares about her appearance. He wants to feel proud and lucky to have you on his arm and while we all wish love could be completely unconditional and our looks didn’t much matter, the fact is they do. Men aren’t expecting us to look like super models or look perfectly “done” at all times, they just want to see that we take the effort and care about our appearance just as much as we did when we started dating – for ourselves and for them. Men want your hair soft and feminine. Not a severe style that’s loaded with gel and hairspray. I was on a date once with a man who suddenly took his hand and ran it through my hair and commented that he had needed to find out if it was as soft as it looked. While his was a bold move, (it was only our 3rd date) I was instantly grateful that I hadn’t sprayed it into a stiff, hard shell. Hair should look soft and feel soft. We all look better with at least a little make up. While men like make up more natural, it’s important to “wow” him on date night by going the extra mile and playing up your eyes. Your Body You don’t have to be a size 4 or even the size you were when your relationship began, what makes you attractive is when you take effort to keep your present body in shape and healthy. Exercise, eat a well balanced diet, don’t smoke and drink alcohol in moderation. He loves to look at your body sitting, standing, dancing, sleeping and every posture in between. Give him that sensual pleasure and take pride in the assets you were born with. Lingerie What are you wearing under your clothes right now? At the very least make sure your bra and underwear are in good condition and MATCH. Mismatched bras and panties that are torn and faded are NOT attractive. Get rid of them now! Men want to feel like they are unwrapping a beautiful present that is just for them. When you put a little effort into your undergarments men feel special and your stock as a beautiful, sensual woman goes way up. The memory of undressing you to reveal pretty, feminine, lacy lingerie hiding your womanly treasures will burn on his brain for days. Your Home The overall first impression of entering your home and laying eyes on you will have a lasting effect on your man. If your home is a display of clutter and disorganization how attractive do you think that is? The clutter will be associated with YOU. Take time to clean and organize your surroundings before your man comes over for a date or your husband comes home from work. Have fresh flowers in a vase on the table. Light candles, or dim the lights turn off the TV. in favor of background music. If you are newly dating, you probably still do take the extra time with your appearance and home. But if you are in a long term relationship or marriage, ask yourself if you’ve relaxed a bit in these areas. If so, make a change. You will feel better about yourself and your man will feel lucky to be with a sensual woman who takes care of her appearance and environment for HERSELF and for HIM. Memories of you and how his surroundings were relaxing and pleasurable will come back to your man throughout his hectic workday and make him feel connected to you in a positive way.