7 Truths About Men That Can Help You Be Successful at Finding Love after 50
One of the biggest over 50’s dating challenges women face is about understanding the way the male mind thinks and works.
That’s why today, I’d like to share 7 simple truths about men that you can start using right away to turn your dating life around.
BTW . . . I’ve had clients use this advice and go from emasculating men like it was their job to having men fall over themselves to get to know them better.
So here we go . . .
Truth #1: Appreciate a man for who he is . . . A MAN
Men are wonderful but they aren’t women.
They don’t think like women, nor do they communicate like women.
Men come from the mindset of being hero oriented while women are community-oriented.
Since we think on different levels, you can’t expect a man to behave the same way you as a woman might.
Truth #2: Men over 50 are very masculine
They have no interest in competing with the woman in their life over who can do something better.
In the dating world, when you lead from your masculine side, you are quickly friend zoned because to him, it feels like he’s dating a man.
The key is learning to come from your true feminine power, your heart.
Your heart and vulnerability are your true strengths and they complement his masculine power; to keep you safe and protected.
Truth #3: Men show you love with their actions
Hollywood has messed with our heads on this one.
On the big screen, they show us male characters like the one Tom Cruise played in the movie, Jerry McGuire when he professed his love with a big romantic speech that ended in the famous words, “You complete me.”
Real men show you their love through the actions they take like when they cut your grass or give you their coat on a date when you’re cold.
Truth #4: Men want to make you happy
Let them open the door for you and change that light bulb you can’t reach.
It makes them happy to take some of the burdens of life off your shoulders.
All they want in return is to be appreciated and thanked.
If you do this, they’ll do anything you want the next time you ask, which leads us to Truth #5.
Truth #5: Don’t criticize the job a man is doing for you
He’s doing his best and yes, you may be able to do it better or faster than he can but don’t take over and show him how.
It makes him feel emasculated.
If he has offered to do something for you and you’ve said YES, allow him to do it his way.
Otherwise, the next time you ask for help, he’ll tell you to hire a handyman.
He doesn’t want the aggravation of looking less than in your eyes because he can’t do anything right for you.
Truth #6: Men are not your pet project
I can’t tell you the number of men who told me stories of how women tried to change them.
The reason you might do that is that you see his potential and try and get him to as well. (BTW . . . he sees and accepts you just how you are)
My advice . . . don’t try and remodel a man.
Either accept him for who he is or let him go and move on.
Truth #7: Make it clear you’re interested.
A lot of men over 50 are pretty insecure when it comes to asking you out.
Having been rejected time and time again by so many women, they aren’t so quick about putting themselves back in a vulnerable position unless it feels safe to do so.
If you like a man, encourage him with eye contact, a warm smile, or a flirt online to let them know you’re interested.
Be kind to men and understand that as scared as you’re feeling about dating, most of them are too.
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