If you’re like most women, you’ve often wondered why finding the right man to share your heart and life with seems so hard to do at this age.
There are lots of reasons it happens but, one of the biggest is you’re probably looking for the right man for you today, the same way you looked for him back when you were in your 20’s.
And it’s not surprising you might do this.
Unlike our mothers, we still wear jeans and we still have long hair. (many of our mothers cut their hair once they were married and kept it short the rest of their lives)
And with vibrant memories of our youthful years still floating around in our heads, there’s just no way we feel or look like we are in our 50’s, 60’s or 70’s.
So it’s understandable you’d look at men the same way you did in your 20’s because you still feel young.
If you think about it, most of us still want some version of that handsome, popular, successful football captain.
Yet, when you go online with your 20-year-old mind who pops up?
Men over 50 who look like your grandfather with grey thinning hair, a belly, and a boatload of baggage.
No wonder it seems like no one’s out there to date – they all seem too old for you! Right? (BTW . . . I’ve had men tell me they see a lot of women online who look like their elderly aunt)
A couple of years ago, I remember seeing a picture on Facebook of my handsome high school sweetheart who by the way, had played football.
I was shocked!
Over the years, whenever I thought about him, what would come to mind is a mental picture of him with long black hair wearing painter’s pants. (anyone remember those?)
So when I saw this still handsome man on Facebook who looked like his father with snow-white hair standing outside in a suit, I was shocked.
It didn’t fit the picture of the man I remembered.
A wonderful gentleman once told me this story that we can all relate to.
He was getting ready to post his picture online and his daughter says, “Dad, Why are you posting a 10-year-old picture of yourself online?”
He confided in me that the picture was how he still saw himself and he didn’t realize his face had aged since it was taken.
None of us likes to think we are getting older, but we are . . . and so are the men we want to date.
There are some men who are still handsome and have aged well and there are some who haven’t, but as you get to know their personality, they can become a lot more handsome in your eyes.
Instead of always looking for the men you remember dating back in the day, get clear on what is really important to you when it comes to a companion you want in your life.
Do you want . . .
- A lover?
- A friend?
- A man who will be with you through thick and thin?
- Do you want a man who views you through his eyes as hot and will love you even more as you age always believing in his eyes that you are beautiful?
He’s out there waiting for you. You just have to be able to see him. Yet, I’ve found most women can’t.
If you’re not sure, ask yourself these 2 questions . . .
- Are you dating the same type of man over and over again just with different hair, different clothes, and a different job?
- And are you’re still single because the relationship with this type of man starts off great then ends up going nowhere?
If so, then chances are you’re still looking for the type of man you dated in your 20’s and that’s a set up for frustration and failure when it comes to finding love after 50.
Until you start to understand what in a man is going to make you happy NOW at this time in your life, you’re going to keep dating the same guy with the same results that keep you single.
Now here’s the good news!
These are ALL easy things to fix.
Not only that, once you learn the eye-opening process I teach my clients for attracting, meeting, and keeping a great man after 50, you will have your pick of wonderful men to choose from.
This is how Mindy who joined my group coaching program in 2020 explains the difference this eye-opening process made in her life.
With Lisa’s guidance and coaching, I was able to learn what had been holding me back from finding the right man for me. I am now in a 3-month relationship with a man that is different than any man I have ever dated in my life, and different than any of the men I have dated since my divorce. In the past, I’d have passed him over for not being my type and would have missed this amazing man and relationship. He checks all of my boxes on my Quality Man Template!!!
If you want to stop wasting more precious years of your life dating the wrong men over and over again and you’re ready NOW to find true love, watch my free 45-minute presentation and stay to the end.
If you click with what I say, let’s jump on a call where I’ll show you how I can help you get this lifelong issue solved!
There isn’t a reason why you can’t create the life of your dreams with an amazing man who wants to love, cherish and adore you and is on your level. Let me show you how!
Believing in you!
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