simple secretsOne of the hardest things you face as a single woman over 50 is the emptiness you feel inside when you’re missing a man in your life.

Now it’s probably emphasized even more as the Pandemic continues.

If you’re out and about you might see couples holding hands, kissing, and whispering in each other’s ear over the private life they share.

Or you do a Zoom call with one of your couple friends and you see the understanding that passes between them.

Watching couples intensifies the loneliness and makes you feel as if your life is incomplete.

In my 50’s, I can remember coming out of a long relationship feeling lost and very alone.

Instead of being part of TWO . . .  I  was now a “ONE” and I was having a hard time adjusting to my new status.

I shared this with a married friend of mine who gave me some great advice.

She said, “Enjoy this time of getting to know you again.  Once you’re back in a relationship, you’ll wish you’d had more of it.”

This was great advice but I was at a loss for finding me again.

All I wanted to do was be part of a couple once more.

Then one day, I woke up and it’s as if while I was sleeping, I was given 3 Steps on how to open my heart to myself, my life, and ultimately love with a man again.

Give these 3 Steps a try and let me know how they fill the emptiness for you.

Step #1

Being alone, you can really feel it when love is missing from your daily life.

But, how do you get that heart energy back when you’re single?

Chances are you spent years bending like a pretzel doing what an ex or everyone else wanted to do.

You put yourself last.

Now it’s time to dream again and do the things you’ve always wanted to try without having to run it past anyone but you.

This can be both exciting and freeing at the same time.

For me, I’d always wanted to take a painting class.

I did and today those paintings hang framed around my home.

Seeing them every day makes me so happy.

I just light up inside because I went after my dream of becoming an artist.

There are lots of classes, book clubs, Meet Ups, and Facebook events you can join online.

Write a list of what you’ve always wanted to do.

Then take an action step by choosing one and start doing it this week. 

You’ll find that your passions can open your heart and make you glow.

Step #2

You can feel love in your heart without involving a man.

Start by making a list of all the people, animals, or places in your life you love.

I am blessed to have two granddaughters in my life.

When I was single and feeling alone, I’d tap into my feelings of how much I loved them.

My heart just opened up and that felt amazing.

You will want to ask yourself who do you love with all your heart?

Maybe it’s your dog, cat, kids, grandkids, friends, parents?

Whoever it is, just allow those feelings of love you’re feeling to flow through you.

This is a very comforting step that helps you remember that love can be felt in all different ways, not just as part of a couple.

Step #3

Treat yourself and do something to nurture YOU every day.

As women, we have a tendency to give to everyone but ourselves.

This can leave you feeling both drained and exhausted.

When you’re exhausted you feel empty and it’s pretty hard to give or get the love you want.

Planning a fun 5 minute or 2-hour activity gives you something to really look forward to every day.

It can be as simple as reading a book in the bathtub surrounded by luxurious bubbles while sipping your favorite glass of wine, or taking a walk at your favorite park, or buying yourself something online you’ve always wanted.

To help you, I’ve created a Nurturing Calendar that you can download and print by clicking here.

Getting a guy is pretty hard when you feel empty inside and that’s why these 3 steps are so important to incorporate into your life.

I would love to hear about who and what fills your heart.  I hope you’ll post a comment by clicking the button below.

Until next time…Lots of love and hugs to you!



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