The Bay Area is the best place to date… if you’re a woman.

A recent study from Trulia found that San Francisco is the number one city to find high-quality men worthy of marriage in the USA. The study took into account the gender disparity, number of hours men typically worked a week, level of education, number of previous marriages, and amount of single males. Using these variables Trulia concluded that it’s the best place in the US to find a husband.

But that doesn’t mean it’s the best place to find a wife.

The study found that its ratio of single males to females was the second-highest in the nation, with a resounding 52% of adult males in the city identifying as single. BestPlaces also recently published a study finding that SF was the most solo city in America with 44.7% of its residents identifying as single.

Of the most populous 100 cities in America, only 19 have more men than women… SF is one of them.

Despite this gender disparity, there are some that believe the Bay Area to be one of the best cities in the US to be single in. A WalletHub study found SF to be the thirst best city for singles in 2019. This is mostly because of its abundance of dating and fun and recreation opportunities. That being said, what good is an abundance of activities when you’ve got no one to go with?

The Silicon Valley has so many more single men than women in part due to the heavily male-dominated tech industry. Look around San Jose, Mountain View, Palo Alto, and SF and you’re bound to run into a slew of tech companies and start-ups that are male-centric.

Silicon Valley is one of the most competitive places in the world to date if you’re a male.

This is why so many men are enlisting the help of Silicon Valley dating services. But who is the best dating coach in Silicon Valley? And who is the best Silicon Valley Matchmaker?

Guide to the Best Silicon Valley Matchmakers & Dating Coaches

First, The Numbers

There are about 3,118,070 people that currently call The Valley home.

Within the San Jose metro area, there are about 150 men for every 100 women.

As we’ve touched on, men dominate the region due to the wealth of tech-jobs in the area. Company filings from major tech monoliths like Apple, Facebook, and Alphabet show that 70% of all employees are men. You think that’s a disparity? -it’s nothing.

When Jonathan Soma, a data-visualization professor from Columbia University used Census Bureau numbers to visualize The Valley’s single population, he found that there were entire zip codes in the area that had more than 40% more men than women.

What this disparity has led to is rampant hookup culture. With so many men to choose from, women don’t have to settle for any single guy.

With numbers like these, you’d think women would be stoked. Well, that’s only kind of the case. The intrepid single women that have braved SF’s male-centric dating scene have often felt burned out and left reciting a common SV refrain, “the odds are good, but the goods are odd.” If you’re a dude, you can take heart in this maxim.

If you are one of the lucky men to nab a loyal dating partner, chances are the weather will be on your side. Never too hot or cold, Silicon Valley’s average temperature will nearly always lend itself to both indoor and outdoor dates.

Speaking of indoor dates, SF gives its residents options aplenty. SF is the most restaurant-dense city in the US, with 39.3 restaurants per 10,000 households. And hey if you’re not into hitting a restaurant for a first date, why not hike at one of the many parks SF has to offer.

Most Popular Dating Apps In SF

With over 30% of U.S. adults having used a dating app at one point in their lives, and a majority having reported an overall positive experience, it’s safe to say that online dating has now become mainstream. With 39% of heterosexual adult Americans having met their partner online in 2017, it’s now official that online dating is the go-to method to meet someone nowadays.

The question you need to be asking yourself is not whether to use dating apps or not, but rather which app should you be using?

Know that every dating app caters to a unique audience.

Tinder appeals to those within the 18-24 demographic, Bumble is for those that have graduated from Tinder and are looking for something more serious, and JSwipe is like Tinder, but for Jewish singles.

With that being said, here are four dating apps that every SF resident should be using.


Tinder is by far the most popular and used app of California. It doesn’t matter that you’re no longer of college-age, you should download Tinder. The thing is, while it’s most active age bracket are users between the ages of 18-24, it still is used by a host of older women.


If you’re looking for a more serious relationship (read: monogamous) use Bumble. Billed as “feminist Tinder” Bumble conversations may only begin after being initiated by the female user. If a woman doesn’t initiate the convo within the first 24 hours after a match, the match expires.

Bumble looks and feels just like Tinder. This has a lot to do with its founder, Whitney Wolfe, who also co-founder of Tinder but left the company after being sexually harassed and discriminated against. Despite similar mechanics and aesthetics, Bumble appeals to more mature singles.


While many dating apps are designed to be addicting, Hinge is designed to be deleted. It backs up this claim by having users create in-depth profiles, through its use of a Nobel prize-winning algorithm to help you find super compatible singles, 10 limited likes a day, and other features.

The League

The League is just like Tinder… but for guys and gals that hold PhDs, swollen bank accounts, and drive Teslas. In her mission to find a man worthy of her, founder and Carnegie Mellon graduate, Amanda Bradford started The League. This elitist Tinder doesn’t accept just anyone.

Upon applying you’ll be waitlisted usually for around 2 weeks, after which you’ll be accepted or rejected. Only 10-20% of applicants make the cut. To improve your chances it’s best that you first understand The League’s milieu.

As founder Amanda Bradford has said of its users, “98% have college degrees, 8% are PhDs, 30% have advanced degrees, 14% are director-level or higher, 21% are managers, 13% are CEOs, founders, co-founders or owners, and over 39% are estimated to be making six-figure salaries.” Sure the app seems kind of caddy but if you’re looking for a person that matches your socioeconomic background this app might be perfect for you. Also, the median age of the female user is 29 years of age.

I recommend downloading 5 dating apps. By casting a wider net you’re more likely to match with more women of diverse backgrounds. That being said, what’s the use in downloading dating apps if you don’t know how to effectively use them.

Enlist the help of a Silicon Valley dating coach and matchmaker to help you achieve your romantic goals.

Silicon Valley Dating Coaches

As one of the most populous and booming cities in America, SF and the surrounding area has its fair share of dating coaches, none perhaps as effective as us, here at emlovz.

At emlovz we put aspiring Don Juans through the gauntlet of romantic obstacles. In our three-month Signature Program you’ll learn how to MegaDate (date women simultaneously), boost your confidence, mine for dates online, flirt IRL, ask women out with a TDL, learn our coveted date plan blueprint, and much more.

Unlike any other dating coach in Silicon Valley, we offer coaching in both private and group based formats. Work 1-on-1 with me, or join 5-10 guys just like you in my group program!

We also give our clients the option of signing up for our matchmaking program. Too busy at work? Don’t like online dating? Don’t wanna mine for dates all by yourself? Don’t worry, my team and I have you covered.

Unlike other matchmakers, our pool of prospective suitors isn’t limited to just our database. We deploy a team of e-recruiters to scan the web in search of compatible singles. In this way we expand our pool of singles and are able to find you a woman of high compatibility.

We should also mention that we’re based in San Francisco. As an SF-based dating coach, I have a unique sense of the local dating scene and intimate understanding of the city & of course the Silicon Valley.

Other Silicon Valley Dating Matchmakers and Dating Coaches

Bay Area Dating Coach is all about finding you love, regardless of your age, creed, or sexual preference. They focus on one’s dating strategy, skills, confidence, and wisdom in order to remake you into a sage dater. As their website writes, “Bay Area Dating Coach blends traditional and innovative strategies to help clients succeed in the online dating world.” Its founder, Jessica Engle, who is a mental health therapist, specializes in turning novice daters into composed romantic mavens.

Featured in COSMO & Business Insider, Sarah Jones’ company, Introverted Alpha promises to turn shy and unassuming men into alphas. In the Benevolent Badass program men are provided with email support, will walk you through online messaging, are provided feedback on style, SM profiles, grooming, overall look, and vibe. In 12-18 modules you’ll ultimately learn what it takes to become an intentional social leader and build bonds with both women and men.

What’s Next?

If you play your cards right, what’s next is a date.

Contact emlovz now via a 1-on-1 Zoom call to get started on creating a tailor-made dating plan that is guaranteed to help you succeed romantically. We’ll also determine if my group coaching, private coaching, and/or matchmaking service is right for you!

In 12 sessions we’ll teach you how to socialize with women with ease. You’ll learn dating skills that you’ll be able to use throughout the course of your entire life. With our unique MegaDating method you’ll also cut down on the time it takes you to find your next relationship, wife, or life partner. Schedule an appointment today to get started.